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No Motivation

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Mum311023 · 02/02/2026 11:39

Good morning is it just me or does anybody else have no motivation to try and lose some weight I currently weigh 13 st. I used to be 11.5st way before the first ever locked down I was in a abusive relationship for 5 years and when I finally plucked the courage to end it with my now EX partner in March 2020 I was drinking a lot of alcohol I was eating a lot I wasn't exercising I was laying in bed all day just feeling so for myself because obviously because of lockdown and my breakup. I wasn't sad over my breakup I was just relieved that I eventually got rid of him but he didn't leave me alone so easily he was really nasty and abusive to me and constantly sending me messages and being threatening he eventually then got with another woman in 2021 but still he was messaging me tell me that he loved me and he was harrasing me my weight basically has just escalated ever since and I'm finding it hard to lose weight I do have a kettlebell but it's just the motivation to start using it and making myself look better and feel better any tips welcome.

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CarmellaSopranosKitchen · 02/02/2026 20:17

Maybe make a start - do ten minutes. Go for a brisk walk. Find a friend to work out with. Use music to motivate you? Go for a swim? The first step is the hardest....

ADHDFocusedLife · 03/02/2026 01:53

Mum311023 · 02/02/2026 11:39

Good morning is it just me or does anybody else have no motivation to try and lose some weight I currently weigh 13 st. I used to be 11.5st way before the first ever locked down I was in a abusive relationship for 5 years and when I finally plucked the courage to end it with my now EX partner in March 2020 I was drinking a lot of alcohol I was eating a lot I wasn't exercising I was laying in bed all day just feeling so for myself because obviously because of lockdown and my breakup. I wasn't sad over my breakup I was just relieved that I eventually got rid of him but he didn't leave me alone so easily he was really nasty and abusive to me and constantly sending me messages and being threatening he eventually then got with another woman in 2021 but still he was messaging me tell me that he loved me and he was harrasing me my weight basically has just escalated ever since and I'm finding it hard to lose weight I do have a kettlebell but it's just the motivation to start using it and making myself look better and feel better any tips welcome.

You’ve been through abuse, stress and survival mode low motivation is normal, not a failure.
Tip: don’t wait for motivation. Do 2–5 minutes only (walk, a few kettlebell swings). That’s enough to restart momentum.

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