Cold then hot during the night

[OakElmAsh]

I'm 43, probably in peri, and having an awful time sleeping

Start of the night, get into bed in a cool room, comfortable under the quilt, have cotton pyjamas on. As a relax and start to drift off to sleep I start to get colder - feet cold, boobs cold nose freezing. I add first socks, then a jumper over the pyjamas after a bit, maybe an extra blanket if that doesn't work. Just about get cosy enough to sleep.

Queue maybe 2 hours later, same rigmarole in reverse - feet are hot, take off socks... After another while remove blanket... Jumper then... Maybe back to sleep an hour or two later.

Sometimes I may even need to start putting layers back on another hour later

Anyone ever dealt with this and found a way to stay comfortable???

I had the same thing and the only thing that helped was HRT. Oestrogen helps regulate your temperature so when you have less of it in your body, hot flushes and night sweats happen then the cold afterwards as your body realizes you're actually roasting hot.

Interestingly, I've lost weight and have found the flushes coming back. Oestrogen is stored in your fat cells so less fat means less oestrogen. So I've had to crank up the HRT to try and stop the flushes again and get my sleep back on track. It's a pain in the fucking arse.

I just go to bed with a hot water bottle then if I get warm later, it's easy to push it out of bed. Not sure it's a menopause thing.

Two hot water bottles. Put them under a pillow beside you to keep them warm when you don't need them, pull them out when you do. Or single duvet, use it the usual way round when cold and twist it to lie across your body with feet and head uncovered when too hot. Sorry, my suggestions do rather depend on you having the bed to yourself. Commiserations, I spent 18 months with teeth chattering in bed, I was so cold; because if I ever so much as thought about putting on a cardigan, I was immediately on fire.

HRT sorted out the hot, cold, hot, cold for me. Lying in bed flipping the duvet on and off was what finally drove me to get it sorted.

Oooh I've lost 4 stone on muonjaro as well, no wonder my temp is all over the place....

Sounds like I may be headed for HRT... I'm just wary that it's a bit early, and my other symptoms are very manageable... no hot flushes during the day, brain fog not happening (yet), mood is fine. Libido is low, but that's not a peri thing, that's never been high...

If you do HRT do it. Honestly menopause is ridiculous. I hated my periods but they were short and regular.
This is like my entire soul being sucked out ..

Was exactly the same (a couple of years older than you but it had been going on for probably a year) and HRT has sorted it. I didn't have flushes during the day either. Or brain fog, but was having odd memory lapses, anxiety and wildly itchy skin, all of which are also better. I'm only a few months in so still figuring out some stuff around side effects and dosage but overall I'd say it was worth looking into.

I'm the same and hrt has definitely helped. But I also have a four cover layer system (I'm like an icicle most of the year). I always sleep with a top sheet (brushed cotton in the winter) then I have my summer/winter button together duvet, but as separate duvets (I think they are 5 and 8 tog) and a light fleece blanket on top of that. I have a hot water bottle getting into bed and start with all my layers (yes, I really do get that cold), then I can unpeel myself as the night goes on. Dh is usually boiling so he just uses whatever layers suit him.