Stage 1 breast cancer ..advice needed pls

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Hi all I am very stressed out my mom had a biopsy as she had a lump in her breast and today I rung up and the nurse said we can’t tell u but it is very early and very treatable and she asked me if the nurses was with my mom last week which I did say yes to.. she also said we have a plan and it’s very early 2/3 times so what do I make of this my world is turned upside down and I haven’t told my mom yet as she has an appointment on Friday morning ☹️

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What country are you in OP? In the UK here and a nurse would never be able to disclose that information over the phone, especially to a relative of the patient.

@AInightingale I’m in the uk.. she did say she can’t but I said can you tell me what it is and she said what was you told last week I said 50/50 breast cancer and she said yeah .. also she said it’s very early days and we do have a plan

She indirectly told me basically

Ok, just seems a bit strange that she would tell you as I thought it was doctor to patient, face to face. Are you going to try to break it to her gently before her appt? In some ways that might be easier on her, it is awful to find out in a hospital miles from home.

I think sometimes the patient knows anyway when the person making the appt tells them to 'bring someone with you.' It's a sort of horrible code for bad news. Sorry about your mum OP, but it's good news that they've caught it early. 💐

Ok so what is it you are looking for? Your mother will be told and a treatment plan will be in place, which is likely to be a lumpectomy and radiotherapy. If so she will need some help on the day (it might be done as an outpatient) and won’t be up for much for a few days. She’ll have a few appointments and may want moral support for those. Can you stay with her for a bit? What you must be is strong. Be optimistic. But Listen. If she wants to talk about it let her. Don’t brush it under the rug. Let her talk. If she has a network of friends and is planning on telling them say you are happy to liaise with them if they want to bring her meals/walk the dog/and so on.
My friend had her op a couple weeks ago and says mostly she is bored. She doesn’t feel energetic enough to go out much but likes having company. Maybe you can help arrange that with her friends.