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coping with PMS, low mood

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theblackradiator · 06/06/2025 20:20

im 47 and definitely peri menopausal but still having regular periods. I have noticed in the days running up to my period I am now suffering from awful PMS, Very low mood and awful anxiety much worse than I ever have done.
I actually feel the change in myself, my moods at this time, it is an awful few days which I really struggle with.
Nothing seems to lift my mood and makes me feel better. Friends company that I usually enjoy i find i go off them and don't enjoy being around them at this time and I hate this feeling.
Awful anxiety about everything, things from 10 years ago which hasn't bothered me in all those years now flashes into my mind and becomes an issue. its just crazy.
I know things will lift once my period starts but Its an awful few days leading up to it.
Does anyone else suffer like this or has it also gotten much worse for you at peri meno? how do you cope/manage it?

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Theextraordinaryisintheordinary · 07/06/2025 00:23

Yes. I was the same. Oestrogel helped so much.x

80smusicandavoulevant · 07/06/2025 00:23

I’m sorry you’re having a tough time. I totally understand as im going through the same. I am on an app called balance and it’s a lovely community of us women going through the same thing. It’s good for advice and you’ll not feel so alone with these horrible symptoms of perimenopause.

80smusicandavoulevant · 07/06/2025 00:24

Ps as the poster said above… I’m also on HRT which has helped with some symptoms

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theblackradiator · 07/06/2025 11:12

Thank you for your replies. I spoke to the nurse at my GP practice this week actually as I'd attended for my very overdue smear test. I told her all my peri symptoms and she said the only time I'd be issued with any kind of HRT if I was suffering with awful hot flushes which I am not yet fortunately.
I just felt very dismissed and like the attitude is just get on with it.

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Gattopardo · 08/06/2025 00:08

I was where you were, 5 years ago. I was amazed when my PMS went away after getting a hormonal coil. I have heard that this isn’t the answer for many people on its own. For me, it was a wonder drug.

Mine has now conked out and needs replacing so I’m going for a new one plus Oestrogen replacement in a couple of weeks.

Female hormones can really seriously fuck with your head.

With supplemental hormones I can do a complex job and deal with the many difficult people who cross my path regularly. Without I am reduced to a gibbering wreck who can barely decide what to cook for tea.

@theblackradiator, Hope your appt resulted in some help for you.

80smusicandavoulevant · 08/06/2025 01:01

OP at 47 you’re have a right to try HRT!! Demand a trial for three months to see if it helps your symptoms. I think it’s disgusting that women past 45 get turned away for hormones that we need!! Don’t give up until you get HrT

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theblackradiator · 08/06/2025 13:06

80smusicandavoulevant · 07/06/2025 00:23

I’m sorry you’re having a tough time. I totally understand as im going through the same. I am on an app called balance and it’s a lovely community of us women going through the same thing. It’s good for advice and you’ll not feel so alone with these horrible symptoms of perimenopause.

you say the app is a community, so is it like a forum similar to this where women can discuss what we're going through.
Having a tough day today. think ive discovered a leak from the roof of my house as a damp patch has appeared on the bedroom ceiling. its my own property so will need to find a roofer to come and take a look. This will massively stress me out and cause me huge anxiety until its sorted. I can't even focus on making dinner through stressing over the bloody roof. wish I could switch my bloody mind off!

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80smusicandavoulevant · 08/06/2025 16:36

Yes it’s a perimenopause/menopause forum and is a lot more advice and helpful ladies over there more than Mumsnet menopause forum.
I’m so sorry you’re going through such a hard time. I hope you can get your roof sorted asap and I hope the weather stays nice until it’s done.

Newgirlintoon · 08/06/2025 19:51

You absolutely can and should be prescribed HRT from your symptoms alone.

I sympathise as I am in exactly the same boat but I’m yet to start my HRT.

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theblackradiator · 08/06/2025 23:36

80smusicandavoulevant · 08/06/2025 16:36

Yes it’s a perimenopause/menopause forum and is a lot more advice and helpful ladies over there more than Mumsnet menopause forum.
I’m so sorry you’re going through such a hard time. I hope you can get your roof sorted asap and I hope the weather stays nice until it’s done.

thank you. il look for the app.

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theblackradiator · 08/06/2025 23:46

Newgirlintoon · 08/06/2025 19:51

You absolutely can and should be prescribed HRT from your symptoms alone.

I sympathise as I am in exactly the same boat but I’m yet to start my HRT.

definitely in full swing of peri as also have other symptoms. achey joints, awful memory, and the one which has come as a bit of a shock and I really didn't know this was a thing until recently and its one I'd be too embarrassed to discuss with my GP, but i now really struggle to reach orgasm and when I do its very weak and unsatisfying. It seems even the pleasure of sex is coming to an end. honestly cannot believe the constant awful surprises the menopause brings and ive not even started with the hot flushes yet 😫

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80smusicandavoulevant · 09/06/2025 00:21

Go through Superdrug doctor online and try testosterone. It will help your libido. It can help with joints and brain fog. I pay £18 for three sachets every three weeks. A sachet lasts 8 days

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