Domestic abuse

[Jax1980]

Will I go to prison for self defense against my abusive partner

That’s a loaded question. It very much depends on the situation

What did you do to him?
No one can say without further info
Speak to a lawyer
Get away from this man now

I’m not sure poster is a she…

If you are seriously worried you have done something that might lead to imprisonment, please please please be careful what you post here.

Second important point - are you currently safe? If not, what can you do to make yourself safe?

Try to stay calm and think clearly, which is easiest if you do it in small chunks.

At the moment, think about the next half hour, and how you can get safely through it.

(But don't do anything that will endanger you later down the line. )

Well thats a loaded question.

Have you done something to them already?

Living with an alcoholic for 10 years,a six year old daughter together who he is telling everything is my fault. Disgusting vile man

Guys please chill,stop freaking out. I've put up with a hell of a lot from this piece of shite and feel that one day I will snap. What frustrates me the most is that I can't because I'll lose my daughter and that can not happen. I live in hope that one day I can build enough money,get a plan and we can disappear away from him.

Hiya I'm a DC who works in Domestic Abuse.

Whilst the legal defence of provocation is still technically available in some senses, it's not something that would likely stop the long drawn out process of arrest bail charge court that would likely happen if you were to 'do anything'

Even if (TW - made up violence) he was holding a knife to your throat and you managed to kill him with it - the cops will not know that and will still basically be looking at a dead man with a knife with both/your prints on it.

Basically my advice is to prioritise yourself and your child. If you're in danger please reach out to family, friends, National Domestic Abuse Charities, Police if you want to go down that line etc
There are teams that want to help you.
There is help you can be offered.

Please don't stay in an abusive situation.

Please don't retaliate or take matters into your own hands.

💐

Speak to Woman’s Aid, make a plan to leave, pack a bag for yourself and DC and hide it or leave it with someone you trust. If you have time ensure you have separate bank accounts and he has no access. Tell a trusted friend or family member. Make a separate bank account for yourself and transfer money into it if you can. Plan where you might go - parents, friend, air BnB. Yes you might be arrested for violence if you retaliate so best to make plans first and leave instead.