Is this just life?

[Needsomesun12]

Evening all....recently I kinda feel like I'm struggling with my identity.
I'm late 30s and I have a teenage son.
My weekends are no longer full of trips to the park and birthday parties etc so I'm trying to find just me again.
More recently i have been drawn to more "grown up things" like going out for a coffee, looking after wildlife, trying to be more healthy. I'm not sure if this is an age thing or a need for something slow and steady (had some issues with my mental health last year due to an ex, but all resolved now) but then I hear some proper dance music and I long to go out with my friends and feel "my other life" is boring.
I'm fairly certain that this is quite common, but I just feel like 2 completely different people as opposed to different parts of me.... Does anyone else feel like this? Or did? Any advice? Many thanks

Absolutely get this. All of my friends now love the quiet life. I feel like I should do too, and in some respects I enjoy those things but every now and then I feel.like the last old party girl ready for a good time!

I'm late 40's and went to a pop up rave recently... Like old times, it was ace!

Why not enjoy both lifestyle ingredients, in a blend, mix it up a bit... Does it have to be all one or the other?

What’s wrong with embracing both sides of you?

I'm struggling with mixing the two. I do feel a shadow of my former self at the moment and almost fear that if I go out, like proper out I will make some awful decisions that will seem like a great idea at the time

The thing is, this whole “I am a shadow of my former self” stuff is technically true. We move through life, and we change, it’s impossible to ever remain the same. Perhaps what you need to think about is how to reconnect with parts of yourself that you miss. And also embrace some degree of uncertainty. We never remain the same, perhaps spend some time discovering parts of yourself as they are now, whether that’s trying new things or revisiting things.

It doesn’t need to be so all or nothing either — if you do go out, it doesn’t mean you’ll make loads of bad decisions and it’ll all be terrible.