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DoWhatIDo · 17/12/2024 21:09

Gah.
I am really feeling fed up. As in something I’ve not felt before : not looking forward to anything, sad, lonely , worried as well as fiercely angry. It’s a huge messy mixed bag of emotions.

Backstory but can’t be too informative as very outing : hysterectomy with huge complications 7 weeks ago. Still poorly with it and struggling .
I went through an Immediate surgical menopause ( now have oestrogen HRT ).. can’t work due to horrific mental health, family member poorly , DH away on business most of the time, I am solo parenting…

I am struggling. Like really fucking struggling.

Drs are shit. Happy to give happy pills but no more than that. I can’t take them anyway due to severe side effects.

My goodness. I should be happy - thrilled for lots of reasons and I should show more thankful behaviour. But I can’t .

I don’t know what to do. I want a life but I feel just feel so so down.

Please advise me and please be gentle ..

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CoastalCalm · 17/12/2024 21:11

I had hysterectomy start of November , you’ll still be recovering from that and not least the anaesthesia and hormone changes. Just try to be as kind to yourself as you can and go slow - I keep telling my myself that by spring things will be better and just hunkering down at the moment

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DoWhatIDo · 17/12/2024 21:16

CoastalCalm · 17/12/2024 21:11

I had hysterectomy start of November , you’ll still be recovering from that and not least the anaesthesia and hormone changes. Just try to be as kind to yourself as you can and go slow - I keep telling my myself that by spring things will be better and just hunkering down at the moment

Bless you. It’s horrible and with all the complications for me, I wish I had never had it.
Look after yourself and I hope that you feel better with each passing day.
Thank you for your kind wishes 🩷

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CoastalCalm · 17/12/2024 21:18

DoWhatIDo · 17/12/2024 21:16

Bless you. It’s horrible and with all the complications for me, I wish I had never had it.
Look after yourself and I hope that you feel better with each passing day.
Thank you for your kind wishes 🩷

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I’ve had days when I wish I’d just left it but really I couldn’t have lived with a mass inside not knowing if it was cancer (was borderline) I think it’s natural for you to regret it but as your body recovers I’m sure you will begin to see the benefits. I’ve got some large open wounds as got infection a few days after coming home but they are slowly improving - it’s a cliche but it really is one day at a time

Ladymuck2022 · 17/12/2024 21:49

Mum was a young lady in 2009 just kicked out of an nhs hospital within a day with a weeping wound after a ‘full’ hysterectomy it went to a full infection. It was 2009 not today. Mum has never been on hrt 😢

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DoWhatIDo · 17/12/2024 21:53

Ladymuck2022 · 17/12/2024 21:49

Mum was a young lady in 2009 just kicked out of an nhs hospital within a day with a weeping wound after a ‘full’ hysterectomy it went to a full infection. It was 2009 not today. Mum has never been on hrt 😢

I am really sorry to hear about your Mums terrible experience. That must have been awful for her . I do hope that she recovered okay.

Is there anything you are implying regarding my
thread or were you just wanting to share an awful experience ?

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