Would you worry about this mole? ☹️ Tired, anxious and fed up

[OptimisticRealist2024]

(TW: mentions pregnancy loss)

I had a miscarriage a few weeks ago and my hormones and anxiety have shot my brain to pieces. Last night, I got out of the shower and noticed that a flat, tiny freckle that had randomly appeared about 6 months ago was raised. I can't remember how big it was then but it is still very small. It definitely looked like a flat, tiny freckle before and now it looks like an actual, slightly bigger and raised mole.

I've been in and out of the GP/hospital a lot recently because of the pregnancy but I can't take the anxiety any more. I just want my brain to give me a break. I had light spotting all through my pregnancy and the midwife kept saying it was normal, and then I lost the baby, so I'm in a sort of limbo where my instincts were right once and might be right again. DH thinks I'm being paranoid (I have a track record of worrying about my health) but I just think he's a little bit done with my sh** and needs a little break from my anxiety, too.

It's next to my big toe and I live in socks (not a flip flop person!) so can't honesty believe this is sun damage or similar. I think my feet are only ever bare in the shower.

Does this look normal? Am I being paranoid? Intend to go to GP on Monday but just want some anxiety-free hours this weekend. I've looked up for private appointments and there aren't any in my area for a few weeks. I know I won't drop dead overnight but all of this is exhausting and I keep thinking hat if I have cancer and I shouldn't TTC because the waiting lists for this to be assessed is 17 weeks and I won't be able to have treatment if I fall pregnant again and can't have treatment and be there for a baby to grow up? I think I want to go into the GP thinking that it's probably nothing rather than the universe's way of telling me I am not destined to be a mother.

I would go get that looked at. Taking practical steps to do so is no reflection on your worth

I have one in the exact same spot that I was concerned about. I was worried because the shape didn't look uniform to me but I had it checked and it's fine. I agree it's an odd location but the dr thought nothing of it.

Absolutely get it checked out but please try not to spiral.

Thanks so much - relieved that someone else have had it in the same spot and been nothing to worry about. Feel free not to answer but did yours come on suddenly? Did you ever find out what it was?

(I've found an article which has scared the bejesus out of me online and think having a potential second diagnosis that isn't cancer might help me.)

The universe isn't telling you that, I promise. You should get it looked at but it's very unlikely to be anything worth worrying about. I'm so sorry about your loss. Watch some shitty fun TV and give yourself permission not to think about this again till you walk into the appointment.

I'd get that checked. A little bit of extra care and focus on you at this time is good.

I'm so very sorry for your loss

You could also download the SkinVision app and run it through there which might set your mind at rest. It is excellent.

I have melanoma and have lots of personal experience of moles/ lumps and have friends with other types of non spreading skin cancers. It doesn’t look particularly worrying to me but please don’t rely on strangers on the internet. If you are worried get it looked at.

I can't thank you enough, I can't believe that this exists - just scanned it and they say low risk and will take a closer look, so that will get me through this weekend and to the GP on Monday. ❤️ Thank you.

Thank you ❤️ I'm having such a wobble this weekend because I've never had this before. I turned 30 this year and I didn't think about any of the things that could possibly go wrong with my body until COVID. I really hope you get better soon ❤️❤️

❤️ My brain is a menace at the moment. Daft tv is going on xxx

Thank you so much. Mumsnet got me through the actual pregnancy, it's really coming through for me now ❤️❤️

Thank you ❤️

Isn’t it brilliant? I’m so glad it has helped. I’m so sorry for your loss.

Skinvision app is brilliant. I would still get it checked though. If GP is concerned generally you would get seen in about 2 weeks.

You should definitely get it checked as it's changed and it's irrelevant that it's in an area that hasn't been exposed to the sun. But it is in all likelihood probably fine. I've had a few skin changes checked. One ended up at derm on a two week wait check. All of them were absolutely fine. The derm check was great actually as she checked all my moles (and I am very fair skinned and moley) so that was really reassuring and worth the visit!

So please try not to worry about it. I suspect that about 90% of moles checked are nothing to worry about. You are absolutely doing the right thing by getting it checked, but there's nothing else you can do, so no point worrying. Worrying isn't going to change anything.

I struggle with anxiety too and one thing I remind myself when it's playing its games, is that anxiety is there as a thing to keep you safe. It's to make you run away from the tiger. There's no tiger here. Nothing to run from. The anxiety has no purpose in this situation.

Best of luck for Monday but sure it will all be ok.

So sorry for your loss, I had two in 2022 and have suffered terrible health anxiety ever since. I too had a worrying mole not long after my pregnancies that turned out to be fine. Personally id say yours also looks like nothing to be concerned about, but get professional advice for peace of mind. Look after yourself and be kind to yourself too x