Infertility

[TaylorK95]

Hi everyone, I'm new to this site.

I've recently been told I won't be able to get pregnant or carry a child after a year of myself and my partner trying and recent fertility tests.

I'm struggling to come to terms with this.

The amount of emotions that are being felt are something I've never experienced.

I feel useless, less of a woman and person, angry, depressed, bitter, jealous, guilt, despair. You name it, the list goes on. It feels all consuming.

I'm also feeling guilty as I feel I don't have the capacity to be as supportive as my partner is to me at the moment due to the dark cloud that is consuming.

Has anyone got any advice or just kind words that can help.

Unsure how to get through this.

Welcome to MN but I'm sorry you are feeling like this. The test results must have come as a complete shock to you both. You are not useless or less of a woman at all. You are grieving OP

I would seek out a counsellor specialising in fertility. If you provided the county/area you live in, someone on here might recommend one. I realise you have only just had the news, but would surrogacy or donor eggs/sperm be an option? Sometimes writing your feelings into a letter to someone or to yourself can provide comfort- to get the words out. Not to send it to anyone, but just to get the words out. Do you have any family or friends you could talk to?

DH and I TTC 12yrs, lost 3 and no cause for sub-fertility ever found. After my last round of IVF, that consultant was clear about my chances of conceiving to term- less than 5%. I looked into donor eggs, but decided against it. I'm 2yrs on now from deciding to stop further IVF. I have a very happy life, now have a dog and enjoy the freedom when I read about parenting on here. Yes, its a different life to the one I'd always envisaged, but valuable and happy. x

Hi, thankyou for your kind words and sharing your story. It was comfort to hear.

Unfortunately IVF is not a possibility for us for many reasons. We will eventually look into adoption. But for now it’s how to deal with what I’ve been told.

I can’t get out of this rut and depression.
I’m going to look for a counsellor.

How did you get yourself to come to terms with it? And all the negative feelings that come with it?