Please help me, I’m absolutely terrified

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Hello, I had unprotected sex seven days ago and believed he had done a recent std test. Just found out this was a lie. I have been breastfeeding my son for the last 7 days and am terrified I have given him HIV. I am shaking and crying and to top it off, I have had a flu today which is an early symptom of HIV. I am terrified out of my mind. Please help me - what do I do. I am so angry and disgusted at myself.

Phone the gp on Monday, id say the likelihood is that you've caught a cold/flu. As for an STD, HIV is worse case scenario but there's a few others in between. Either way, HIv isn't the life sentence it used to be

Hi OP, a quick google tells me that HIV can be passed on through breast milk. I would stop breastfeeding for now ( I am assuming you have).The chances of 1) him having HIV and 2) him passing it on are probably quite slim , so try not to worry but maybe a quick trip for medical advice on Monday would be a good idea.

OP the odds are in your favour and as pp said even if worst case scenario HIV is not what it once was.

He has travelled abroad a lot- he travels to high risk countries. I’m so terrified. Can’t believe I have put my beautiful boy at risk like this. I’m absolutely distraught.

This really sounds like anxiety kicking off. You are really really vanishingly unlikely to have contracted HIV, and 2-4 weeks is the period where symptoms would show.

I'm so sorry he has lied to you and put you in this awful situation. The quickest way to put your anxiety at rest is to insist he test asap, if you can be in his company then I would go with him to a walk in centre tomorrow if you can find an open one, as you can't reliably be tested yet. Maybe send him with a mutual friend if you have one?

Hey OP.

There is nothing you can do now as the event has already happened. Are you able to ring OOH GP over the weekend or 101 for advice? GUM clinic staff are usually an excellent source of information and support.
This is very unfortunate that you have put yourself in this position (yes it takes two I know but you can't turn the clock back).
Concentrate on yourself and your little one for now, look about getting yourself tested as soon as possible and don't beat yourself up about it.
You knew the risk by having unprotected sex. I'm not trying to be a bitch by saying that, but take it as a very steep learning curve to always put your needs and protection first when it comes to sex. Loads of STDs on the increase nowadays. You really should be very very careful about using protection.
Look after yourself and I hope that your tests all come back clear and you and your baby are OK.
Try to pace yourself and take it a day at a time until you get your tests and results.

Go and bet tested asap and try not to stress too much about it until you get your results

I agree with the previous posters. Get tested. Wait for the results. Try to stay calm.

OP, I wish you all the best, and I hope that everything will work out for you.

Is he HIV+ or do you have any reason to believe that he is?

Do you have annn no update please OP?