Gynaecologist appointment

[Lauren8642]

Can I hear people’s opinion about this letter. I had a gynaecologist appointment in November 2023 about my irregular periods also went because I have painful sex (obviously this was ignored) I was very upset with the appointment as he talked down to me said irregular periods are normal and because I’m young I shouldn’t have a problem trying for another baby. And the only way to get my periods normal is to go on the pill. And his response to my painful sex was use lube and try forplay. I rang pals straight away and they put me back on the wait list for another appointment with a different person. I have then received this letter of a copy from the gynaecologist to the doctors I think the way he has worded something is not very nice “pleasant 25 year old lady” (what’s that suppose to mean??) and “complaining” and then saying it’s not surprising my swaps and ultrasound came back normal🤷🏼‍♀️
I’m ringing the doctors tomorrow anyways because I think I may have a problem with my ovulation and the pain during sex and irregular periods isn’t getting better but wanted to hear what people thought about this letter?

Kindly OP, I think you’re looking for problems with that letter which aren’t there because you didn’t like the consultant.

“Pleasant 25 year old lady” means that he met you, and that you were pleasant.

He said that your swab and ultrasound results being normal was unsurprising, meaning that he didn’t think you had any sexually transmitted infections and that he didn’t think you had anything sinister going on in your uterus which would be causing your issues. Nothing he wrote is unkind or unprofessional in any way, I’m sorry.

Exactly that

Well the pill doesn regulate periods - because you don’t have any. Because the pill stops ovulation. So that’s a worry from the start!
have you been tested for PCOS? Or endometriosis?
I would also suggest tracking your cycle with a Basel body thermometer- or another of the devices available. And learn your fertility signs - mucus and body temp. The book Taking charge of your fertility by Toni Weschler is a really useful book.
You will need to do this for at least three months to get a pattern.
He sounds pretty useless unfortunately. However I didn’t get diagnosed with PCOS until I was in my 40s so it doesn’t surprise me.
In the mean time there are supplements and other things you can do to increase your fertility and your DHs. And it’s a great thing to get to know your body and your signs of fertility

Are you tracking your cycle, OP?

When you see a consultant they write to your GP. Every letter starts with "I saw this pleasant xx year old lady" , it's traditional.

"Complaining" means the symptoms you described to him. Again it's the phrase every doctor uses. "Complaint" is another word for "symptoms".

The swab and us results were normal and this is "unsurprising" because he expected them to be normal.

There is nothing at all wrong with this letter.

It's an entirely normal consultant letter.

I think you didn't get the answers you hoped for and so are taking the consultants letter to be harsh, but I don't believe it sorry op.
I hope you get some answers soon x

That's consultant speak, perfectly normal.

The letter is standard medical speak and I don’t see a problem with it. It’s common to state that patients were “pleasant” and by “complaining” he means this was the “complaint” or problem that you were referred for. He was expecting your swabs to be normal, so wasn’t surprised when they were, but did them to absolutely rule out certain diagnoses.

I'm sorry you didn’t get what you wanted out of the consultation but the letter is totally fine.

Period problems and women's pain always get dismissed

Entirely normal language. I don’t see anything inappropriate in the letter.