Awful PMT

[madascheese123]

I've always had a few days of PMT but it's getting steadily worse to the point I can't cope at work, scream and shout at DH and four year old and am just generally unbearable for 3 days each month. It's actually quite frightening and I feel totally out of control. Literally the minute my period arrives I snap back to normal. I'm terrified of how this will affect my lovely DD.
Age 41, not peri, one doctor thought peri and tried progesterone only pill and hrt which both made it worse, private endocrinologist thought def not and did lots of timed blood tests to rule it out.
It's just been left by gp and chalked up to anxiety..but for only 3 days at the exact same time each month?
I'm calling my gp tomorrow as I was so so horrible to DD today and then my period arrived this avo and I'm fine. Like a switch has flicked. It can't go on, what do I say? Has anyone had experience of this?
Don't drink, smoke and take all the recommended vitamins already! They won't let me take combined pill as I vape (to give up smoking).

I feel for you. I get similar - very irritable around family and tearful / emotional / cross. I feel like I have no patience and arguments always happen around this time. I also feel like this around ovulation time too. I feel like I barely get a break in between!

My advice is if its predictable when you will feel like this, try and just not over-stress yourself around those times. These are the days when you do frozen food for dinners, or you say to DH that you need him to take over more childcare on those days and go out for a walk by yourself. Or keep some new toys in a cupboard that you bring out for your DD at these times so she can amuse herself easily to reduce the demand on you.

Keep communication open with your DH and say look, I'm struggling on these days I need some help, I don't want to fight. And try and just get through it together.

I am losing weight to try and improve my symptoms. I've found regular strength training (twice a week) and eating plenty of unprocessed food helps with my irritability and I do feel less angry all the time. Early nights too (9pm bedtime).

@Snowpaw
Thank you, all great advice.
DH very supportive and aware of it, unfortunately I ignored his advice to go upstairs and have time to myself as I get so worked up I can't see the woods for the trees sometimes.