If you were sexually abused and have kids how to deal with it

[mickymouseswifeminnie]

I have a daughter who is 10, I was sexually
abused from an early age by my dad and then from the age of 9 by a family friends son (16). I am married to an amazing man, he knows abuse happened in my life but doesn't know it was sexual ( I'm to embarrassed to tell him). I was upstairs the other day and when I came down my husband and my daughter were on the sofa, he was later on his back and she was laid on top of him, it was just a cuddle, she does the same to me. I walked in and felt very uneasy with the situation, because of what I went through.
How do people deal with this?
I will just point out my husband would NEVER abuse our daughter, I have always taught my kids about safety as I didn't want them to go through what I went through. I did have some counselling a while back but it was only 6 seasons and that doesn't even scratch the surface of years of abuse
Sorry if this isn't in the right place I didn't know where to post it

I'm so sorry about your abuse. My trauma manifests in being over protective and very serious about safeguarding. It will show up in different ways with people differently. Just know your response is normal and is just your brain wanting to protect your child. I always tell myself the best story possible. In your case it could be ' my daughter is so lucky to have such a healthy and loving relationship with her father'. If you feel uneasy try telling yourself that story and evoke the emotion of gratitude. it really works for me, hope this helps

Sorry you suffered to.
Thank you for the tip, I will give this a try, I'm glad to know my response was normal.

What happened to you as a child was not your fault in any way, that is all on the people who abused you along with your trust.

re counselling six sessions are indeed not going to cut it. I would urge you to contact NAPAC as they could be very helpful
to you.

I’m so sorry you are facing this. It must be so hard to navigate. I agree with the other poster, try and get more therapy if possible.