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Days before period are making my life hell

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redrobininmygarden · 07/05/2023 22:08

I hate looking in the mirror. I feel like I am the ugliest woman. I have started noticing my face is full of hair, I don't want anyone to see my face.
I want a divorce from my husband as he asked me this morning to put things slowly on the worktop to avoid scratches. I can't even look at his face. But still want to follow him around and hate him so much. When he is irritated by my behaviour, I feel good, the feeling of accomplishment.

I have also spent £ 100 on gardening as this is the only thing that makes me feel happy. I don't want to cook anything and don't let him order a takeaway.
I feel guilty as a mother and bought different types of vitamins for my children. My body only picks up energy in the things that I have been recently obsessed with : gardening. I don't have the energy to cook delicious meals which I normally do. I feel sorry for myself.
I don't want to speak to my family and don't want to attend family functions. I feel bloated and have nothing suitable to wear from my closet.
I feel like my brain is not interacting with me as it does normally. I don't feel loved. I am not motivated at work and just want the day to be finished.

I don't know what I want from this post but wanted someone to listen to me. I am 35
I didn't feel like this 4 days ago.

I am having bad night sweats and my feet feel sweaty too. My hair feels so greasy and dry skin on my face.
The list is never-ending.

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Hercisback · 07/05/2023 22:10

Google PMDD.

Could it be the start of peri?

OP I sympathise, I feel similar for the days leading up to my period. I have found vitamin D and magnesium helped a tiny bit. Along with exercise outdoors.

RowenaRosewood · 07/05/2023 22:13

It does sound like perimenopause. Presumably this a recent thing?

Insideallday · 07/05/2023 22:15

I hear you, I could’ve written that post. Could you possibly be peri menopause? I’m a bit older 44 and have started HRT 2 months ago but for at least the past 3 yrs my PMS went crazy, I had the rage (scared myself at times), really low moods, no interest in anything. My hormones went crazy. it’s really horrible, it’s like you’re having an outer body experience.

2mts on HRT and I already feel better.

You are quite younger but your symptoms do sound hormonal.

You have my sympathy .

HamHand · 07/05/2023 22:16

Solidarity here. I’m 39 and this has crept up on me the last 2 years. It’s awful, I feel like I hate my husband and my life. I’ve never felt anger or irritation like it and I hate what it’s done to me. As soon as my period starts it subsides. It doesn’t help that my period has become so unpredictable that I can never rationalise that I’ll feel ok in a few days. I used to have heavy periods that lasted a week. Since this has started it’s pretty much dribs and drabs for a few days, a few hours of proper period then nothing. Doctor insists I’m too young for menopause symptoms which is clearly utter bullshit. It’s frustrating, I wish I had wisdom to share.

Haveallthesongsbeenwritten · 07/05/2023 22:19

redrobininmygarden · 07/05/2023 22:08

I hate looking in the mirror. I feel like I am the ugliest woman. I have started noticing my face is full of hair, I don't want anyone to see my face.
I want a divorce from my husband as he asked me this morning to put things slowly on the worktop to avoid scratches. I can't even look at his face. But still want to follow him around and hate him so much. When he is irritated by my behaviour, I feel good, the feeling of accomplishment.

I have also spent £ 100 on gardening as this is the only thing that makes me feel happy. I don't want to cook anything and don't let him order a takeaway.
I feel guilty as a mother and bought different types of vitamins for my children. My body only picks up energy in the things that I have been recently obsessed with : gardening. I don't have the energy to cook delicious meals which I normally do. I feel sorry for myself.
I don't want to speak to my family and don't want to attend family functions. I feel bloated and have nothing suitable to wear from my closet.
I feel like my brain is not interacting with me as it does normally. I don't feel loved. I am not motivated at work and just want the day to be finished.

I don't know what I want from this post but wanted someone to listen to me. I am 35
I didn't feel like this 4 days ago.

I am having bad night sweats and my feet feel sweaty too. My hair feels so greasy and dry skin on my face.
The list is never-ending.

It could be the start of peri menopause, I am same age and in peri menopause for a couple of years now and thats how I feel before my periods all the time!!!

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redrobininmygarden · 07/05/2023 23:09

Thank you all for replying.
I have not thought about perimenopause. I thought I am too young.
Do I need to see my GP about it or can go to the pharmacist directly for HRT?

This is a recent thing in terms of feeling all that.

It started with sore boobs last year, I even went to see a breast specialist as I was very concerned and he put it down to drinking too much tea/ coffee.
It has gotten worse since then.

My night sweats, especially last night, made me feel really concerned. I am normally a person who feels cold all the time.

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Haveallthesongsbeenwritten · 07/05/2023 23:12

redrobininmygarden · 07/05/2023 23:09

Thank you all for replying.
I have not thought about perimenopause. I thought I am too young.
Do I need to see my GP about it or can go to the pharmacist directly for HRT?

This is a recent thing in terms of feeling all that.

It started with sore boobs last year, I even went to see a breast specialist as I was very concerned and he put it down to drinking too much tea/ coffee.
It has gotten worse since then.

My night sweats, especially last night, made me feel really concerned. I am normally a person who feels cold all the time.

Night sweats were what pushed me to go the GP as like you i was always the one who is always cold.
just go chat to your gp, i dont take any hrt yet but they can recommend other stuff.

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redrobininmygarden · 07/05/2023 23:19

@Haveallthesongsbeenwritten Wow, this is crazy to have perimenopause symptoms that early. I will ring GP surgery on Tuesday. Thank you.

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Haveallthesongsbeenwritten · 07/05/2023 23:26

redrobininmygarden · 07/05/2023 23:19

@Haveallthesongsbeenwritten Wow, this is crazy to have perimenopause symptoms that early. I will ring GP surgery on Tuesday. Thank you.

I know, I was 32 when i was told so it was a bit of a shock!!

Original poster
redrobininmygarden · 07/05/2023 23:35

Does it mean my periods will stop before 40? Or perimenopause symptoms can last for a decade?
I had my first period at the age of 12.

In my family, my mom and aunt had their periods until 55/56 approx.

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WaitingforSummer77 · 07/05/2023 23:36

I had this exact problem from my late thirties. It was making life unbearable. I did some research and found that the combined contraceptive pill can be taken until age 50, if you have no risk factors....and can actually help with pms/pmdd and also peri menopause symptoms!

The Yasmin pill is specifically recommended for pms/pmdd. So I started taking it in my early 40s. I don't actually need contraception as I'm not sexually active. It has made my symptoms completely disappear. I'm so happy with it. I didn't even see my GP, I just buy it online from the Superdrug online GP service. I take it continuously without a break and don't have periods anymore either.

Haveallthesongsbeenwritten · 07/05/2023 23:40

redrobininmygarden · 07/05/2023 23:35

Does it mean my periods will stop before 40? Or perimenopause symptoms can last for a decade?
I had my first period at the age of 12.

In my family, my mom and aunt had their periods until 55/56 approx.

Not sure to be honest! My situation is a bit trickier as i have endometriosis and heavy and long periods are a thing in my family. My mom also had her periods until 55 and had to ask (beg) for a hysterectomy as she really had enough of her terrible periods.

Haveallthesongsbeenwritten · 07/05/2023 23:41

WaitingforSummer77 · 07/05/2023 23:36

I had this exact problem from my late thirties. It was making life unbearable. I did some research and found that the combined contraceptive pill can be taken until age 50, if you have no risk factors....and can actually help with pms/pmdd and also peri menopause symptoms!

The Yasmin pill is specifically recommended for pms/pmdd. So I started taking it in my early 40s. I don't actually need contraception as I'm not sexually active. It has made my symptoms completely disappear. I'm so happy with it. I didn't even see my GP, I just buy it online from the Superdrug online GP service. I take it continuously without a break and don't have periods anymore either.

The pill made my symptoms worse and i was getting horrible pelvic pain but again everyone is different.

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redrobininmygarden · 08/05/2023 09:50

I used a contraception pill for a month in 2013, I cried pretty much every day so stopped taking it. I don't know the name and type of the pill.
So going back to the pill, I am nervous to even think about it.
My mood is completely different today than yesterday - calm and energetic. Still, waiting for the period! I have begun to feel cramps in my lower stomach, so today is the day!
Going to Holland and Barrett later today to get some supplements.

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RowenaRosewood · 08/05/2023 23:36

redrobininmygarden · 07/05/2023 23:35

Does it mean my periods will stop before 40? Or perimenopause symptoms can last for a decade?
I had my first period at the age of 12.

In my family, my mom and aunt had their periods until 55/56 approx.

My DSis had early menopause and all the peri symptoms lasted for about 10 years, maybe more, before her periods finally stopped.

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redrobininmygarden · 09/05/2023 11:04

@RowenaRosewood I can't imagine myself to go through with this every week of the month for ten years Confused.

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RowenaRosewood · 09/05/2023 11:37

That's why you need to get to the GP and get some help. Good luck

MrsMorrisey · 09/05/2023 11:53

Definitely get yourself in touch with a naturopath. A GP is probably not going to help you much.
You will be told you're too young for HRT or you'll be offered antidepressants.
If you want to go down this route that's fine but a naturopath can guide you about supplements and diet.
I know exactly how you feel. I'm nearly 50 and my symptoms started about 44/45.
It's shit but it will get better xx

ridemesideway · 10/05/2023 16:01

Sounds very much like a progesterone thing. It’s highest as your period approaches, causes the greasy blah feeling.
Does it disappear when your period starts?

hoodieorhoody · 10/05/2023 17:46

I was quite like this until I went on the mini pill. Took 3 months to settle on it but now no periods and even better don't have the mood swings.

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redrobininmygarden · 11/05/2023 11:30

@ridemesideway yes, it happens week before my period.

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