Help after hysterectomy

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I had a total abdominal hysterectomy at the weekend.
I thought I’d prepared myself - left a tidy house, batch cooked etc.
I’m married with a teenage Dd.
I don’t think it was unreasonable to expect a bit of care from home but I’ve had one cup of tea made in the 24 hours I’ve been back.
I’ve managed to get up and about and make myself a snack - but it’s exhausted me and made me feel very sorry for myself too.
Going forward I need to ask for help from husband when he’s here even though he makes me feel like an inconvenience.
I guess if I was on my own I’d just have to get on with it.
But my question is for hints on how can I make it easy/ speed and not hinder my recovery over the next week or so if I’m doing it alone.
His behaviour has clarified that once I am better I need to separate but that is for when the physical pain etc of surgery ends.
ideas for self care gratefully received.

Oh I'm so sorry that you seem to be with such an uncaring bastard.

Do you have any friends that could come over in the day whilst he's out?

That's so shite. I'm sorry.
Havimg had a STAH I can understand how hard this is for you.
The first week is by far the worst. When exactly did you have the procedure?
My own experience was that there was rapid improvement after about day 5.
Do take it very steady. The advice about lifting and hernias is not to be ignored. It's a considerably more intrusive operation than a Csection.

@Wakeywakeysleepyhead my surgery was on Saturday so today is day 3? Fingers crossed then I’ll be better soon.
everyone I know is at work so I guess it’s a case of just not doing things.

That's rubbish . When I had mine, my sister came to stay with me for a week to help out with that kind of thing. You really do need someone to 'wait on you' for the first week at least.

If no one can help and your family won't step up, I can only suggest trying to gather everything round you that you need - make a sort of recovery nest for yourself - and whenever you have to get up (e.g. to go to the loo) get maximum value out of it by getting any drinks/snacks you might need.