Hiya
I'm peri now, so stopping periods and not going through it anymore.
But one thing I did years ago helped so much.
Basically I read that the pill gives a flat line of hormones and women don't get the chance to go emotionally up and down, as we are meant to.
So I came off the pill and went natural, for 22 years so far. Ovulation was GREAT. Felt amazing and hot and no worries.
Then the downswing would arrive and I'd become more emotionally vulnerable, more in touch, more insular. I had read that this is good and how women are meant to work. That we are in touch with what is NOT working in our lives, and that's why we get the insular downswing. If we don't listen, it knocks more consistently.
It took me about five years of working with the intuition from my cycle to really sort my life out. The anger, the big deals that I couldn't resolve immediately. But I was humble about it and let in whatever was knocking to be thought about.
After that, the emotional content of my cycle was fairly benign. But I learned to follow it and not try to direct it.
So that is my advice. It may mean upheaval. But that upheaval could make you happier.