DH and I haven't had a lot of sex since DC2 made an appearance a few years ago. I've been quite unwell and we also have a disabled DC who takes up a lot of our time.
We tried recently and he couldn't get it in and it was extremely painful for me, as in made cry painful.
We thought maybe I was quite dry so we bought some lube and it made no difference. Still agony.
I have health anxiety so am hesitant generally about seeing doctors, especially about gynae things and I just find it all a bit overwhelming.
DH now wants to have 'a talk' about sex, and probably why I've been avoiding it, but the fact is I am just petrified of being in pain again. I have tried to explain it, but I don't think he realises how bad it was. He doesn't hear it and just hears rejection. He asks me for sex every day, because he says if he doesn't then we will never have it, so I spend the whole day on edge waiting for him to ask me. I don't want to live like this. I want my days to not be filled with dread, or pain.
I love my DH but I don't think he is going to understand this, and I don't know how to get out of this situation. Well, I do. I should see the GP. But I'm terrified.
Can anyone help me with how to word all this to him in a way that is categorically not about rejecting him. Because all he hears is that.
And if anybody else has had this issue please tell me what you did and if it got better? Thank you.
(I'm a v regular poster but have name changed for this)