Any one had an episiotomy that didn't take years ago but didn't do anything about it?

[nancydroo]

Wanting to know other women's experience. Had a third degree tear and an episiotomy that reopened. Eventually healed but left open. Difficult to explain. I'm years later down the line and not sure how about getting it sorted or even if I can. Feels like I have no undercarriage and little distinguishing from the front to the back. Am I the only one? Not going for cervical smears because of it and sex seems to tear it a little further. What kind of long term complications are there? Was going to write 'asking for a friend...' but I'm trying to be brave

I had mine redone about 6 months after. I just saw my doctor and explained the issues and they referred me to the hospital.
All done under general.

I had an episiotomy with my 2nd DS; he's nearly 15 now.
I've been left with what I think is a gap in the muscle around my anus. This causes a problem to pass a stool for me with me needing to 'hold myself' underneath so speak to be able to fully clear out (sorry for the graphic details).
I'm not sure what I can do about it, I do feel possibly there could be some kind of surgical re so soon that would make a difference, but I remember the pain of the initial episiotomy vividly and not sure I want to go through that again for what may be a small gain.
My stitching was performed by a junior whilst observed by the senior doctor (I remember the guiding remarks about where to pull the side together, how to stitch etc.). There was nothing in the instruction about care to make sure functioning parts are made!!

There is a cynical part of me that thinks if I had been a man, being seen back together by a man; more care would have been taken about maintaining good function of their genitals.
I would be intrigued to know if anybody has successfully found a way to improve their undercarriage after a butchering though.

Yes. I had to have various surgeries including a perineoplasty which is where they repair the area between from and back passage.

It is definitely repairable mine was done about 4 years after births

Hi thanks for responding. Sorry you are having to go through this. It's difficult to think what to do given we are not under maternity anymore. Your experience sounds terrible. I had the midwife's boss do the episiotomy but she was really rude and embarrassing me by what she was saying whilst she was stitching and talking really loudly so others could hear. There was no way I was going to let the visiting midwife check my stitches at home as I was so traumatised. I had an episiotomy first time round which was only second degree tear and the episiotomy was fine. So it is this isolated incident that has caused me problems.
I also feel I was butchered and this lady was not a nice person at all. It does cause me problems and I'm worried it will get worse but not brave enough to go to GP. Do you think sexual health clinics would be better?

You should try to be brave and go to your GP. If a GUM clinic would make you feel more comfortable then there's no reason not to go there. It's their area.

I had one 27 years ago, stitched up by a student or something getting guided. Had no feeling in it since past the first 4 years of painful sex afterwards. I did go to see if it could be fixed but was dismissed by the consultant as it had healed well.

If it hasn't healed well then surgery can help. Just you need to take the first step.

I think you should try to see your GP over this .If you want to talk about it first , has your GP surgery got a practice nurse with women's health experience? They could potentially advise you re which GP to see. Birth injuries are not uncommon and it is completely reasonable to get best advice about it.

Yes I know I need to do something about it. My pelvic floor is non existence and if I sneeze or cough everything empties 😱 if only there was a helpline I could talk to first. I
Scared of further humiliation