I am really confused and I am hoping that someone maybe able shed some light on this? Or at least suggest some questions for when I go back to the doctor.
I am not very good at properly explaining this and much worse IRL (I get embarrassed and upset about it too easily.) The issue is that sex has become really painful.
I've had issues since DS birth 6 years ago but in the last couple of years things have become unbearable. DS was an EMSC after a 80 + hour labour. The Doctor at the birth was determined I would have a VBAC and only intervened after I refused rotational forceps. by then DS (head on 99th percentile and back to back) was really stuck and had to be pulled back up. I had previously had another EMSC which was a lot smoother. - I was pretty traumatised and am concerned some damage occurred during this event.
6 month after that I had another trauma at the fitting of the mirena coil which was botched by an incredibly nasty doctor left me feeling completely abused. I then bled for 6 months. All of these have made it really hard to get my sex life back - DH has been sympathetic but is sad and disappointed about it. Our relationship is not great at the moment and this is not helping - I find it almost impossible to speak to him about it (too godamm English...).
I have recently had issues with severe deep pain at any kind of penetration - and it was flagged up by the (lovely) practice nurse at a smear test. I was referred to see a women's health GP who referred me to the the gynaecologist. So I had this appointment and it was an ultrasound and nothing showed up. I was then told the next step is a laparoscopy but I am not entirely sure what this is for. I found myself unable to actually have a proper conversation with the doctor there (young male and looked like a bloody film star) just not able to relate at any level.
There is one other issue I have not been able to discuss at all in real life and that is that I orgasm far to easily - and any clitoral stimulation is enough - and this makes the pain problem worse as all the muscles in my vagina tense up straight away - and with a bit of age related dryness (I am mid 40s) its all disastrous. Any kind of foreplay and I'm done before I'm ready to start. I can't bring myself to raise this in an appointments and wondered if anyone here has any suggestions??
I think I need to go back and see the women's health GP again as she is at least relatable - but I am stuck as to how surgery might be the answer?
Sorry if this is long and confused - any thoughts or advice would be appreciated