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Terrified of std clinic

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Misskimmy82 · 15/08/2022 01:02

Hello mumsnet , I am posting here because I don’t have the guts to tell anyone. I have been with my partner for 3 years - the best 3 years of my life. Before him I was with one man but we always used protection. I know I am going to get judged for this but please no judgement I had unprotected sex with my current boyfriend from the get go. He’s a wonderful man and I trust him with my whole heart when he says he was clean.

however i found out recently that he had many flings, like a lot before me. With some women. I asked him about them and he felt kinda embarrassed explaining one woman had like 50 sexual partners.

ever since he said this I’ve been freaking out . I’ve never been tested at and std clinic and I feel like I’m suddenly getting pains all Ofer my body with worry. I’m ringing up first thing tomorrow to get checked out but I’m so nervous I’m going to be hiv positive or have chlamydia or something. Neither of us have any symptoms. Has anyone had a similar experience. I feel silly :(

im wide awake with worry :(

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Alala2809 · 15/08/2022 01:10

Hey!

The anxiety will be getting the better of you, and you'll be creating all these bad images in your head.
No shame for the unprotected sex - you were with someone you trusted and felt comfortable.
The tests themselves are very easy, and even if you were to have something, alot is very treatable. I'm sure it must be a bit of a shock, but alot of us have been there.
If you and you're partner go, get tested, call it a clean slate, you'll feel secure again.
He may have had unprotected sex with previous people, but there's no telling that those people weren't regularly being tested themselves. Alot of people with multiple partners etc will go to double check regularly, smears, blood tests etc at clinics, so just because they may have had a high number, doesn't mean that they weren't healthy.

I hope your mind gets a little rest with getting tested and I wish you all the best with it. Better getting tested late than never!

Sunshineandrainbow · 15/08/2022 01:11

At our one you can do a home postal test

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Misskimmy82 · 15/08/2022 01:15

Alala2809 · 15/08/2022 01:10

Hey!

The anxiety will be getting the better of you, and you'll be creating all these bad images in your head.
No shame for the unprotected sex - you were with someone you trusted and felt comfortable.
The tests themselves are very easy, and even if you were to have something, alot is very treatable. I'm sure it must be a bit of a shock, but alot of us have been there.
If you and you're partner go, get tested, call it a clean slate, you'll feel secure again.
He may have had unprotected sex with previous people, but there's no telling that those people weren't regularly being tested themselves. Alot of people with multiple partners etc will go to double check regularly, smears, blood tests etc at clinics, so just because they may have had a high number, doesn't mean that they weren't healthy.

I hope your mind gets a little rest with getting tested and I wish you all the best with it. Better getting tested late than never!

Thank you so much for your lovely reply ! Think I’ve worried myself with Google- the worst thing I could do! Things about diseases laying dormant etc. I’m going to calm down see if I can get an appointment for this week. 😚

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Alala2809 · 15/08/2022 01:18

Misskimmy82 · 15/08/2022 01:15

Thank you so much for your lovely reply ! Think I’ve worried myself with Google- the worst thing I could do! Things about diseases laying dormant etc. I’m going to calm down see if I can get an appointment for this week. 😚

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Google is such a mindfuck. Worst Doctor ever.

It'll be a few swabs, maybe a blood test. Plus anyone who works there will have seen it all before and won't give two hoots!

Now, get yourself to sleep and don't worry your lovely head!

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Misskimmy82 · 15/08/2022 11:41

Alala2809 · 15/08/2022 01:18

Google is such a mindfuck. Worst Doctor ever.

It'll be a few swabs, maybe a blood test. Plus anyone who works there will have seen it all before and won't give two hoots!

Now, get yourself to sleep and don't worry your lovely head!

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Hey managed to get an appointment for Wednesday at 6:30pm they do rapid hiv testing so I’ll know with a finger prick in 20 minutes ! This has really alleviated my worry!

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Alala2809 · 15/08/2022 14:06

Happy days! Brilliantly quick!

I'm sure you'll be fine. Lemme know how you get on 🤗

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Misskimmy82 · 16/08/2022 22:03

Tomorrow’s test day - so so nervous shaking anxiety :(

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Misskimmy82 · 17/08/2022 19:06

Alala2809 · 15/08/2022 14:06

Happy days! Brilliantly quick!

I'm sure you'll be fine. Lemme know how you get on 🤗

Rapid test showed negative !!! Yay thanks for your support it’s so much better than I thought it would be I was fully diagnosing myself crying . Ahh so happy .

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