Should I give up on penetrative sex altogether?

[MrsBokke]

A combination of breast cancer medication/ removal of ovaries and uterus/ menopause have all left me with vaginal atrophy, and therefore its very uncomfortable to have penetrative sex. I use the recommended vaginal moisturiser and lubricant (a company called YES). it's still quite tricky. We managed a couple of days ago to have sex but now I feel like I have cystitis, sigh...
We have had a good sex life all of our marriage (we are both mid 50s). And I feel sad at the thought of losing this particular part of our sex life, and I know dh would be really sad about it. Oral sex is till good.
I have an appointment this week to find out if using topical oestrogen is a possibility for me (obviously standard HRT is not). I'm not entirely sure how comfortable I will be with doing this though as my cancer was so strongly oestrogen postive.
Feel bad about myself, my body is letting me down.

I am on Vagifem to prevent vaginal atrophy and the associated urinary problems that can come with it . I had a full hysterectomy and was suffering loads of UTIs. Depending on how bad your urinary issues are they may put you on a daily preventive antibiotic. The Vagifem has done the trick for me though and believe me if I forget to use a dose ( twice per week) I notice it when then applying it up there. I'm familiar with Yes products and they are only an " in the moment" thing as opposed to something that will do more than that. Good luck!

I’ve had to. I can’t tolerate any form of HRT, not even vaginal creams.

unfortunately it doesn’t look like vagifem is recommended for women on the type of breast cancer drug that I’m on. Will chat through this with my breast surgeon later in the week though.