Surgical removal of fetus with no heartbeat PLEASE SOMEONE WHO HS EXPERIENCES THIS COMMENT

[Inarliuk1]

My title is this as I have done previous threads and received no comments!
Why does my body not recognise the fact the baby isn't alive and growing??
March 2020 I had a normal miscarriage, nature took its course. Pregnancy tissue unfortunately didn't pass properly so has sepsis/ septic msc.
Told them something wasn't right due to the foul smell from below.

December 2020 missed msc, No fetal heartbeat @ 12 week scan, baby only 8 week.
Medical management, tissue didn't come away, caught sepsis again.

Yesterday attended a 12 week scan, baby only 7 week inside no heartbeat. Opted for the MULTI VACCUM ASPIRATION due to previous times the tissue not coming out properly!

I am 100% sure I yet again have an infection, I smell horrendous downstairs, I wash myself & it's not thrush it's Asif something is rotting which it is. I had an incline my baby wasn't well or alive prior to my scan as it was just a gut feeling having been through this twice beforehand. I prepared myself for it l.
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I AM SHITTING MYSELF FOR THE PROCEDURE TOMORROW!!!

I am so sorry you're going through this. Physically, the actual procedure is fine and nothing to panic about, and the nurses/midwives are usually very kind.
The worst thing is the emotional side to it all, and the fact that you desperately want answers that you might never receive.

Hi OP, I haven’t had an MVA but I have had 3 ERPCs. I hope your procedure goes smoothly tomorrow, and I’m sorry for your loss. As this is number 3 for you, are they going to do any extra tests?

Thanks so much for commenting ladies, after my normal MSC AND then MMC, I had a successful pregnancy with my baby girl in November last year, I got pregnant pretty quickly & initially I was devastated as I didn't want a baby so soon.

I do not want to sound awful but I am just grateful I do have a baby & it's not 3 in a row if that makes any logical sense without sounding nasty.

I cried at the scan however I built myself up for the, sorry there isn't a heartbeat. I had a meltdown today and wondered why me? I genuinely thought the risks of MSC were l extremely low, that's me being naive.

Tomorrow it will hit me when the bleeding and pain is there I know it & I am gutted as I just got excited and planned everything I know it was early but with a 5 month old already I had to think ahead.

Are you awake during the procedure or do you fall asleep due to the anaesthetic, I'm not sure if that's what it's called.

Also what is ERPC sorry xx

The procedure is what's scaring me the most, the thought of them having to suck something out of me, also is it just over and done with them there is no pain and your fine as I am worried how i will care for my baby at home xx

@Inarliuk1 I'm sorry you are going through this op , I've had erpc or d&c as they were sometimes called and for that I was put under general anesthesia whilst they did it .

ERPC is pretty much the same, just under general anaesthetic - I’ve got a touch of ptsd from the sedative wearing off during my egg collection, among all the other things my poor bits have gone through with the ivf, so I prefer not to be awake for the surgical procedures with my MCs… I’m usually back at work 2 days later, and it’s only that long because of the effects of the general anaesthetic, so hopefully you’ll be fine.

Oh really, hopefully all goes well

Thank you all x

How did it go @Inarliuk1? Hope you’re ok

@Sunbird24 hi the procedure went ok, was actually less painful than medical management in a sense, bleeding not heavy however I have began to experience some backache more so now then I did the day of the procedure and the day after. Mentally I am drowning, I haven’t allowed myself to feel upset so it comes on randomly, I feel angry and frustrated, I’m trying to stay strong for my little one. I don’t expect family members to understand as none of them have experienced anything like this or even child loss in general however I feel as tho everyone expects me to get over it. Kind of Asif it’s done now nothing we can do about it. Everyone has expected me to act normal and carry on with my life when I feel like the world is on top of me. Sorry for ranting I just don’t know how I even feel, I didn’t want to be pregnant so soon after giving birth but I just got my head around being pregnant and got excited about it now I feel as tho I’m not allowed to be upset x

@Inarliuk1 you are most definitely allowed to be upset, bottling it up is only manageable in the short term and you need space to grieve. Can you get a bit of time to yourself somehow and go have a really good cry? It might sound a bit weird but knowing you’ve got a scheduled time makes it easier to deal with when it pops up at random - I tend to do it in the shower.
There are specific miscarriage support threads if you would like, I’ll go find you a link

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/miscarriage

Thank you 😊 I’ve been doing it when she’s asleep but it makes me stay awake all night over thinking then x