A little back story(it’s long, I’m so sorry)
I got with my only partner back in early 2014, he was and is the only person I’ve slept with. About 6 months into the relationship I started having painful sex deep inside. I went to a GP who told me nothing was wrong and to use more lube and be less tense. I was still quite young and naive so I just accepted that as the answer, but during the examination she pushed the speculum with just water on and no gel, so it was an excruciating pain and caused my fear of not wanting to go back to a doctor again. So for a good 3 years I just put up with the severe pain during sex and accepted that I was just not meant to enjoy it anymore. Within those years i also gave birth to my first child and with that came even more issues down there, but I put it off still as I was still too scared to have any internal examination again as I thought they’d just fob me off. Eventually in 2019 I went to my first GP surgery. Saw a million doctors who told me it was BV, thrush, pelvic inflammatory disease and so on and was tested for STDs several times, even though I told them I was in a long term relationship and had one partner(which one GP questioned me about and didnt believe me!) . But yet all test were coming back negative and they couldn’t help me. I finally got a gynaecologist referral in 2020, but with covid it was obviously a bit of a wait. Eventually saw the gynaecologist who diagnosed me with vulvodynia, but I’d expressed a million times it wasn’t external it was deep inside the vagina and felt like a scraping and burning feeling. I pushed for a laparoscopy to rule out endometriosis, and they reluctantly gave in(this wasn’t with an endo specialist so I’m wondering if I maybe should of seen one of those?). I recently had my laparoscopy but the results came back as they can see nothing and my gynaecologist has basically told me and I quote “I’m a woman and I’ve just got to put up with the pain now”.
I just feel hugely deflated and unsure of where to go next. It’s having a huge strain on my relationship with my partner and even though he’s understanding it is also affecting me so much as I liked being intimate with him and now I can’t be.
The pain deep inside is just awful, no matter what type of intercourse we have, and no matter what positions we try and just excruciating.
I cannot pinpoint what is wrong with me and feel so let down by the doctors and not sure where to go on my next step of getting a correct diagnosis to my issues?
I’m sorry for such a huge post and if you’ve made it this far, I’m hugely grateful that you’ve read it and I really do owe you a drink.