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Over protective

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mandyjones · 18/09/2021 12:07

I have been having a few issues, really burning when i wee. Went to my GP yesterday and she said best making an appointment at Whitegate Drive clinic. Called them this morning and have an appointment for swabs on Thursday. My boyfriend overheard the call and because it is going to be with a male doctor he insisting on coming with me. I said fine because i thought he wanted to just run me up there, but he says he wants to come into the clinic with me. I am a bit confused, anyone else had, is he just looking out for me?

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fedup078 · 18/09/2021 12:55

How do you feel about him coming with you? Personally I wouldn't be happy about this but I know other people might feel differently

fedup078 · 18/09/2021 13:00

I'm not sure what whitegate clinic is but could this be an sti he's given you and he's having a bit of a panic?

vincettenoir · 19/09/2021 11:20

This is a bit odd of him but I wouldn’t jump to the worst conclusions straight away. There could be lots if possible reasons for it.

postingfortraffichere · 19/09/2021 13:15

Have you asked him why he wants to come?

You need to ask him as it does sound possessive to me and a bit weird.

JinglingHellsBells · 19/09/2021 13:15

I don't know where you mean but most hospitals or drs are not allowing anyone in with the patient, unless they are very elderly/vulnerable etc and need someone to help them.

Your boyfriend may not be allowed in the building and he almost definitely will not be allowed in the room when you see the dr.

There will be a nurse with you in the room if you have intimate examinations.

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mandyjones · 20/09/2021 11:22

@postingfortraffichere
I asked him this morning and it is because the appointment is with a man. He says its weird and asked if i thought he would be examining me intimately, and if so would i mind changing the appointment so i see a female Dr. I have rung the health centre but earliest for a female drs appointment is a week tomo

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Aquamarine1029 · 20/09/2021 11:30

My boyfriend overheard the call and because it is going to be with a male doctor he insisting on coming with me.

He can't insist on anything because it's not his decision as to who gets to examine you. If you are comfortable with a male doctor that's all that matters.

postingfortraffichere · 20/09/2021 11:37

@mandyjones sorry but he is being ridiculous and I would see this as a red flag.

Why the hell would a doctor want to inspect you on an intimate level? It's obvious that as a female these kinds of inspections may be necessary and he is creating an issue from nothing.

The question is - does being inspected by a male bother you? If so then wait for a female but if you are not worried then there is no way I'd push my appointment back for that reason. Nor would I bring him with me.

fedup078 · 20/09/2021 11:37

Red flag @mandyjones
How long have you been in this relationship?

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mandyjones · 24/09/2021 08:32

Would like to thank you for your help.

I did go, on my own.

Final straw was yesterday morning when he came into the bathroom and went mad at me when he saw me shaving my legs and asked why i was preparing myself for a night out. !!! Very thin ice and red flags so again thank you.

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fedup078 · 24/09/2021 08:36

@mandyjones seriously red rid. It will only get worse

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