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Endometriosis and egg freezing - worth it?

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DanisEndo · 25/06/2021 20:28

Hey everyone,

Not sure who or where to ask this so here I am!

So I'm 25, diagnosed with endometriosis last year with polycystic ovaries, extremely broody, been with my boyfriend (also 25) for almost 8 years, we own our flat, both in good secure decent paying jobs, both have big career aspirations. He's not ready for babies just yet and not a big 'planner' in terms of setting timeframes. But I am. Its something we accept as just a difference we have, he can try to be conscious and plan a bit more... I can try and plan less. And harness my patience!

I have my second laparoscopy later this year, at my last the gynae said the extent of the disease was moderately severe and a lot of it. Deeply infiltrated my pelvis to the left and the right, the ligaments supporting my uterus on the left, under my left ovary (with a large cyst within which wasn't identified as a endometrioma), round the back in the pouch of Douglas and on the back of my bowel. He said my tubes were all clear for the time being but there was no guarantee what the future would be. It was ablation surgery and I had no pain relief even with the coil (this was 8 months ago).

SO

My big questions

  • How many fellow Endo warriors have opted to freeze their eggs in advance of TTC...?
  • Was it worth it?
  • Did you end up conceiving naturally? if you did what did you do with the frozen eggs?
  • How do you even start?!
  • Is it expensive?
  • Would you wait till I've had the second lap (excision with a much better gynae) before making any decisions?

I feel like having a little (large) cry every time I think about coming to TTC and struggling... I know we could try and it could just happen... But I'm a 'hope for the best prepare for the worst' type of gal. but don't know if I'm just being over dramatic.

For anyone who made it to the end - thank you

Please be kind x

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BackforGood · 25/06/2021 23:43

Oh, bless you.
I have no idea about the answers to any of your questions, but I think you need to arrange to sit down with your partner and talk about this seriously.
Insist he comes with you to the next gynaecology appointment and hear what is being said to you and what the potential implications are.

DanisEndo · 28/06/2021 09:39

Hi @BackforGood thanks for your reply.

Frustratingly he hasnt been able to come to any appointments throughout my diagnosis or even my last surgery due to covid despite really wanting to be there. I'm really hoping he can be there for my next one in October.

I have told him I'd like for us to have another sit down and talk through it all as we have in the past I'm just conscious not to over do it. Never want to seem like I'm pushing him to change his mind or into something he's not ready for. Equally I think it's important we both have 'break's between chat to digest what we've each said.

He has said he's 'closer' to be ready than he was when we first started talking about it all. but still maybe a few years off.

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