Cosmetic surgery ( breasts)

[Lollipops5]

Hey all,

I’m having my boobs done in a few weeks time. I currently have a 1 year old and the general rule is no heavy lifting for 6 weeks. My partner is refusing to change his shit at work to help me out.

The nursery opens at 7:30 am and I start work at 8. We normally leave the house at 7:20 to get there.
My partner starts work at 7. I’ve asked him if he could change his shit at work to 7:30 for a few weeks so he can lift her into the car. She can already wiggle out of her car seat and jump down with assistance so me getting her out the car won’t be a problem.

I don’t know what I’m going to do if he sticks to his word and refused to chance. Anyone who has had a BA with kids (babies) how did u do it ?

Thanks

Wow he sounds lovely.. what do you want people to suggest? Either he’ll have to help or you’ll have to ask someone else to.

Why though?

I know this isn't what you asked, but honestly put your money towards a holiday, or a whole new wardrobe, or a new car, or anything else that would make you feel good without altering your body. My sister got breast implants and suffered from BII and had to get them removed. She 100% regrets getting them in, it cost her thousands all in all to get them in and then out, and her health suffered massively. Has your partner made you feel bad about the way they look? To be honest though he should support you in the decision you make and help you out during recovery, but there is no feeling greater than learning to love yourself as you are instead of resorting to surgery x

I’ve had this procedure done but I don’t have children. I had mine put in under the muscle which is more painful than over the muscle.

I needed help to sit up from lying down for around a week afterwards. You need to sleep upright for a couple of weeks but if you slide down it’s too painful to get up without a little support.

I was told not to drive for 2 weeks and wasn’t able to lift my arms for a few days.

I’m not trying to scare you at all and mine went well and I love the result. I’d do it again actually. But I think you’ll struggle with the kids without help. Unfortunately I don’t have the answers or solutions. Why won’t he help?

@BlackSabbath

I’m having them done for myself no one else. I had my daughter, breastfed and lost two stone in the space of 6 months! Unfortunately I was unlucky! And when I mean unlucky I mean unlucky! I went from an E to now not not even being an A. I have empty sacks of skin that nearly touch my knees. I can’t even look at my self in the mirror ! It’s something that effects my mental health everyday. All day every day in my head I think boobs. Literally. When my daughter was a few months old just after I stopped breastfeeding we started baby swimming lessons. It literally broke me watching all the other moms in the bikinis and swimming costumes with boobs. And there’s me with a big padded bra on and a long sleeve swim top.

I can’t do it anymore! And you definitely will not find me on holiday in any form of swimwear until they are fixed. I happy to be a mummy and I’m all for mums embracing there post baby bodies but a 26 year old should not have tits like mine. Literally if you only seen my boobs and nothing else you would say 50 year old that’s Breastfed 5 kids. And my surgeon agrees with me in terms on how unlucky I’ve been. No changing my mind unfortunately xxx

@Winterfairy23

Oh believe me I know ! I work there 🤣 xxx

I had mine done a couple of weeks ago. You are advised not to drive until at least two weeks after and you have to be very careful with lifting etc.
I've recovered very well but you do need lots of rest especially in the first week so I would be cautious if you have such a young child and no help at all.

I had mine done for the exact same reasons you want yours doing. I went from a D cup to not even a A and 26 year old me also found that hard to deal with so I get it, I absolutely do.

BUT

Please do your own research and look into Breast implant illness and also look into Breast implant associated Anaplastic Large cell lymphoma which is a type of cancer . I can tell you myself that BII is real I suffer myself, the increased cancer risk is no joke either. Breast implants or indeed any foreign object that lives in your body long term leads endocrine system disruption and is known to cause autoimmune disorders as the foreign object sets off the body auto immune response. There is a very good BBC documentary on it, and several other informative sources that you can find on you tube, the bleeding edge on Netflix also covers it too I believe.

If you do go ahead and get them done anyway find out exactly, and I mean exactly what implant you are having put in as it makes a difference. Also check the implant, as there are many implants that have been recalled or banned in other countries and will in due course end up being banned over here too. All breast implants now come with a black box label warning. I’ve done plenty of research on the matter and there is no safe implant, none! Textured surface ones like the ones I have seem to have the most issues, and the greatest link to the lymphoma cancer I mentioned earlier. That being said smooth saline implants are implicated still and even though the filling is saline the capsule or shell of the implant is still silicone. My implants have since been recalled, they were sold to me as having an extra long shelf life of 25 years....they’ve been in for 8 and will need to come out and at MY expense!!

I’m not trying to frighten you, or put you off something I know and understand you really want. What I do want is for to be absolutely aware of what you are getting into and the risks involved.

In regards to your actual question I had the exact same issue, I used my knees so I crouched in the car while my little one clambered onto my knees and I held her in place with my hands whilst lifting her up with my knees.

Good luck with whatever you decide and if you do go ahead I hope it goes smoothly and I wish you a speedy recovery.