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Surgery for prolapse

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sofiahelena125948 · 19/01/2021 09:52

Hello,

I am desperate to hear about people’s experience with healing/improving from having a prolapse. I had my first baby via forceps delivery 2,5 years ago and my second baby 7 months ago (significant 2nd degree tear, almost 3rd).

I have a diagnosed grade 2 anterior and posterior prolapse (cystocele and rectocele) and have had pessaries inserted twice but unsuccessfully.

With the second baby I had retained products of conception and had to have surgery twice to remove it which further set me back.

I’m trying to do pelvic floor exercises as per the women’s health physios recommendations but finding it difficult to stick to when I have so many other musts in a day. Doing Pilates a couple of times a week to build up strength.

As soon as I’m on my feet I feel a sensation as if a tampon is sliding out and overall discomfort. Sex feels completely pointless because I cannot feel a thing. I cannot run, make fast movements and certainly not jump. Standing still is worse than walking.

I feel like every doctor I speak to thinks this is something I just need to learn to live with and it’s really doing a number on my mental health, I feel so, so awful, I’m just in a black hole sometimes.

Does anyone have experience they can share about recovery? I especially want to know more about surgery. I have the money to go private, I just want the best chances of a normal life again.

OP posts:
ItsNotRainingToday · 19/01/2021 20:28

I had the operation after DD2 was born- when she was about 4 and I was late 30s. It was done privately. My advice is find a specialist, let them have a look and take it from there. Make sure they do this kind of operation regularly and get good results. Ask around on forums once you have a list of possible drs. It took 6-8 weeks for recovery and not doing any lifting. Not sure of the cost but a hysterectomy is around £6000 and think the op you need is about that.

MrsFluffyMuff · 23/01/2021 17:39

Hey OP! I know what you are going through. I had four vaginal births of big babies which left me with a grade 3 cystocele and grade 3 rectocele. The first gynecologist told me I had to live with it basically as they thought I was far too young for surgery ( I'm mid 20s). I was NOT happy with that answer. I couldn't do any form of excersise whatsoever without leaking serious amounts of urine, and I had trouble doing bowel movements. I was too embarrassed to have sex! I went for a second opinion and the gynecologist agreed to do the surgery. It has changed my life. If you want to talk further or have any questions PM me, I would be more than happy to talk Flowers

TheProvincialLady · 23/01/2021 17:46

I had the same prolapses and had the repair operation privately 3 years ago when my youngest child was aged 8. It cost £3k. It was an unpleasant experience and recovery took 12 weeks (full recovery within a year) but I am so glad I had the operation. Living with all the problems (pain, trouble going to the toilet) was just horrible. Feel free to ask me any questions 😊

Bridget944 · 03/08/2022 21:21

So happy to see something positive ! I am in my mid 20s and got a doc appointment booked. I’m unsure what grade my prolapse it but think I have a rectocele and a slight bladder prolapse. My cervix also seems lower and I’m always bloated and uncomfortable. Can I ask what repair you had and when? Was it nhs? How long was the wait? Was it easy to get referral with your age? This is reigning my life and mental health. Vagina is so loose it’s effecting my sex life. I’m also parranoid daily of it getting worse

trailrunner85 · 03/08/2022 21:25

I had a very similar experience to you OP; forceps birth with the first baby and a significant tear with the second.

I had rectocele surgery on the NHS and it changed my life. I run marathons, I lift weights, and all the discomfort has gone. Couldn't recommend it more.

Jedstre · 03/08/2022 21:29

Just a question for everyone who had surgery-did you have to try pessaries first? I was under the impression surgery was last step once other interventions/treatments are exhausted

Bridget944 · 03/08/2022 22:23

@trailrunner85 thats amazing to hear As heard so many horror stories! Thankyou! Can again I ask how old you are? Did they say they would do it if you wanted more children? I’ve even heard you can’t ever lift anything heavy again ? Did you have looseness before this op? How long has it stayed in place for also sorry for all the questions xx

Bridget944 · 03/08/2022 22:26

Cheaper than I imagined yet still a lot of money! Do they do any payment plan options? Did this include everything ? I’m so happy it went well it’s nice to hear a success story can you tell me about it please? Are you allowed to have more children?

trailrunner85 · 04/08/2022 08:01

I was 32 when I had the operation and after a pretty tough recovery, everything has been great for 5 years now.
I was told I couldn't lift anything for a while, but I went back to doing weights (not massively heavy ones) after a year or so. I only took a few months off running, and was back to marathons a year after the op.
They would only operate after I'd finished having children; so I had to be very clear on that. No point having the op and then wrecking it again, I guess!
Before the op everything was loose and I felt like my insides were falling out. Now I'm just as I was pre-kids. It honestly changed my life.

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