Retained material post birth - three months on! I'm so scared!

[SlipperTripper]

I’m not sure what sort of answer I’m looking for, but I am trying my best to stay off Google, and driving myself mad waiting, so through I’d turn to the lovely MN for advice. This may be long, I apologise if I ramble!

I had a TFMR back in September at 21 weeks. Saying goodbye to my beautiful daughter was the worst thing I’ve ever had to do. It was quite a dramatic birth, with a lot of blood loss and a manual placenta removal.

Docs were confident all was removed, and sent me on my way next day. Physically, all fine apparently.

Since then, I haven’t stopped bleeding (except for a five day break), and have been tired, weak and generally low. Have mentioned this to midwives, obstetrician and two gps, had two swabs, and been given the all clear despite feeling generally ‘weird’.

On Thursday night, I had a huge flood (sorry, tmi) panicked, and rang my doctor on Friday morning - stuck lucky and got the great doctor at the practice. She referred me immediately for an emergency internal ultrasound. Turns out, I still have 'an enormous amount of retained material', and my womb lining has now grown to cover it.

Doc went bananas and made a referral to the hospital (who delivered my baby) and I’m waiting to hear about an appointment to go in for a removal.

I’m really freaking out for a couple of reasons... Firstly, my step sister died as a result of septicaemia following material being left inside her after a d&c - apparently the amount of antibiotics I have been on (post birth and then for thrush) have been a saving grace here (never thought I'd be grateful for thrush) and secondly, seeing as this has now been left in situ for nearly three months, I assume it’s going to be a big job to remove it, and scarring is inevitable. I’m so worried that it’s going to have an impact on my ability to successfully conceive in the future. Losing my daughter was heart breaking, and the only thing getting me through was the thought that we could try again. I’m so scared it’s not going to be possible because of a fuck up that has been ignored, despite my pleas.

I wonder if anyone had a similar situation and gone on to have a successful pregnancy?! Or if there’s anything I should know/plan for? I’m really nervous about dealing with this the week before Christmas, with two excited DSDs bouncing about. DH is being incredible, but we’re clueless about what is coming.

I'm so sorry for your loss op
I don't have any advice but I'm sure someone will be along to answer soon
just bumping it up for you.

Op and another bump for you.
I hope someone knowledgeable helps you soon .

Thank you both

@SlipperTripper did you hear anything about an appointment? I'm sorry no one has been along to offer any advice yet x

@SlipperTripper. I am so so sorry that this has happened and you have been left untreated until now having had to say good bye to your daughter.

Hi @Comps83. DH threw a wobbler and took me in yesterday, when I was going through a pad every half hour. They gave a full MOT and am having an operation tomorrow (had to have a covid test first, as is under general anaesthetic). In the meantime have been given two lots of heavy duty antibiotics, for potential sepsis, which is lovely 🙄

I hope they get it sorted and that you don't have to suffer any further than you already have done . Such a horrible thing to happen x

I am glad your husband stepped in and that you are being treated. Wishing you a speedy recovery.

I hope things went as well as could be OP?
And I hope you have a much better year in 2021 x

Popping in to see how you are doing..

So sorry this has happened to you. Happened to me after a miscarriage. 3 months later a private scan showed retained products. Very distressing. I was told there was a small area of scarring. Had a successful pregnancy a year later. Fingers crossed for you too.

Hey all. All went well, felt instantly better! Bleeding stopped straight away and feel back to normal, you don't realise how crap you felt until suddenly you don't any more...

Am on some hefty antibiotics for the next week, and am hunkered down at home, working out the logistics for a gingerbread house with DSD9!

Desperately hoping that there's no lasting effects, we're not even thinking about TTC until summer though, so I guess time will tell. I want to give everything a chance to get back to how it should be, and just want a break from thinking about it all to be honest.