Itchy after sex with new partner

[IgorThalia]

Had sex for the first time in two years last weekend. It was great, but now a few days later I am unbelievably itchy and uncomfortable. Can't get a docs appointment for another 3 days as they've said they want to see me in person. Any ideas? Not likely to be an STI as we used a condom and were both tested for peace of mind. It's driving me insane.

STI - sexually transmitted infection. This means it can be passed on. I think he is blagging you.

You say it could not be an STI as you have both been tested. But on the other hand he has an incurable STI. I am frankly puzzled.

I would go to the clinic if I were you and get a further test.

Entirely possible for someone to have HIV but be "undetectable". Not possible to pass it on if so

Oh dear OP I think that's very doubtful that he has an STI that's not transmissible. I'd say it might be herpes.

Please go to a sexual health clinic. They will work it out very quickly and efficiently and treat you with dignity. Whatever it is. It sounds very likely that you have had whatever he's got transmitted to you - as an STI that's what happens.

If it is something like herpes as a first outbreak it will very likely get very painful. But its easily treated.

Hmmm? Which STI is not transmissible? Sounds like he has misinformed you.

Eeeeek

@Restlessinthenorth

Entirely possible for someone to have HIV but be "undetectable". Not possible to pass it on if so

Exactly this ☝️. When on effective medication it is impossible to pass HIV into any sexual partners, even without a condom. Undetectable equals untransmittable. i-base.info/htb/32308

As the OP used a condom it might be a reaction to that or to any lube used. Alternatively due to friction?

Sorry, meant to add, you could try this or one of the other YES products like WB or OB to help with the itching - chemists stock it www.yesyesyes.org/products/yes-vm-natural-vaginal-moisturiser/?opt=VM5AC6&currency=GBP&gclid=CjwKCAiAv4n9BRA9EiwA30WND8B3Q_F_UJaYPl-wSK0xZ4bgNRt8Y4Sk9fE4m8-2c1b23w3G-zF3IhoC5jgQAvD_BwE

Honestly, this is how thrush starts for me.
Uncomfortable to slightly itchy to very itchy to slightly swollen labia to little white flecks (I used to confuse with tissue flecks) to outright huge swollen fanjo that needs an ice bath.

Sounds like you could be at the beginning. Get in there now before you get to stage four lol.

Isn't there now an over the counter test you can do at home from canestan anyway?

I’d say it’s thrush if it’s so itchy and you haven’t had sex for a while, use the cream and the pessary, see how that works and take it from there.

I'm curious as to why someone asked if he is diabetic

People with diabetes are extremely prone to thrush.

Just go get a canestan pessary and use the cream for the outside. You can buy them on any supermarket shelf.

Yes he has HIV and it's not possible for him to pass it on to me. I have been to his check up with him which he has every 6 months. Just because something CAN be passed on via sexual intercourse doesn't mean it will be.

And yes I know what STI stands for but I appear to be slightly more educated around HIV than some people on this thread trying to tell me my lovely partner is trying to pull the wool over my eyes and potentially pass an STI on to me...

Latex sensitivity even if you’ve been ok with condoms previously especially if you haven’t had sex for a while. It can settle down but obviously check his STI status further.

@powerplant we have both been tested. We went together and opened the results together.

I've bought some canesten. Let's see if it helps!

Men often don't have any symptoms with thrush, so it's probably the culprit.

Thrush is usually more itchy when you are warm, and at night, I've found.

Do we both need to be treated for thrush if that's it?

Yes OP. You both need to treat or every time you have sex he can give it back to you.

When I had thrush I just had itching too nothing else. Get the Canesten duo Pessiary. Always works for me.