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To feel liberated after hysterectomy?!

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Sparkler20191 · 02/09/2020 02:01

Hi everyone, I had prolapse surgery (anterior and posterior) just a few hours ago. There was a risk of a hysterectomy depending on what the surgeon discovered- and indeed, ended up needing a hysterectomy too. It may be the happy floaty feeling post GA but I must say I feel SO liberated. The thought of not having to worry about needing a wee all the time- I couldn’t properly empty my bladder, was exciting enough. But now, to not have a future of painful heavy periods feels simply wonderful. I feel like my days of living with the rather unpleasant consequences of the births of my enormous but lovely(!) babies are behind me and it feels so symbolic that I can now focus more on me and my interests, without constantly being distracted by my “down below” all the time! Honestly I can hardly sleep as I feel like my world has opened up and I am so delighted! I was not expecting to feel like this! I’m 45, so babies defo behind me and am ready to embrace the next chapter(-: I thought I should share this as I’ve been putting it off for years (and thank goodness as I avoided the mesh) and I haven’t slept all week I’ve been so scared about the surgery. But now it’s done- and it’s indeed uncomfortable, I’m really looking forward to the future. Funny though i do still feel like a hysterectomy has a stigma about loss of femininity and am wondering whether I might keep it under wraps. I still want to feel sexy and would feel conscious if others knew. How did others feel? (I appreciate I’m writing this from the point of view of someone who has had her family and understand it’s a completely different experience if you weren’t sure you had completed your family or indeed didn’t have the option)-:)

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Falcone · 22/09/2020 08:21

Thanks for the info @Sparkler20191! How long was it before you could potter around the house and do housework etc? I have four children so I'm trying to work out how long i will need help around the house for. I will add vagisil to my list of things I need, anything else you would recommend? Thanks 😊

Sparkler20191 · 24/09/2020 10:58

Hi Falcon
I assumed I’d be ok but for light lifting by now (three weeks plus) but I’m not and have defo gone backwards- the pain and discomfort telling me as much! So maybe be a generous as you can afford help wise. I also have four kids- youngest 7 and eldest 16 so at least no toddlers to pick up but endless housework nonetheless. Even when they help they simply don’t “see” what needs doing. And of course I cringe and despair as my husband turns all the clothes a shade of grey and shrinks everyone’s school shirts and my seven year old seems to think filling a dishwasher with plates is like chucking a frisbe in and my teenagers bake me things to cheer me up and tell me how they’ve cleaned up but their is flour all over the floor....But what can you do! I bought a litter picker upper from Amazon to pick up everyone’s pants and socks! Kids were great for a few weeks but standards slipping! And exhausting always saying please can you open freezer, get this out of oven, pick up that pen I dropped etc etc. Now wondering if I need one of those post partum/ piles cushions so I can actually sit and help with homework etc. Still so uncomfortable!

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Falcone · 24/09/2020 11:23

Ah bless you @Sparkler20191, that sounds rough! My youngest is only 20 months so recovery is going to be tough i imagine. Is all of your pain from the stitches still? And I'm sorry, but I did let out a chuckle when I pictured your seven year old frisbee-ing dishes into the dishwasher, i could imagine mine doing something similar!

Sparkler20191 · 24/09/2020 11:45

Hi Falcone, if your little one is only 20 months maybe get them a mini litter picker upper too. My seven year old loves mine and insists on picking everything up with it- nerf gun bullets, colouring pens etc. You can imagine how long it takes Hmm but at least he’s keen!

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Sparkler20191 · 24/09/2020 11:46

And yes I think the pain is the stitches! I guess if you had stitches on your knee cap every time you bent it a little it would hurt and maybe it’s the same, you can’t avoid bending a little and exacerbating it all.

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Falcone · 24/09/2020 12:25

Thanks for the advice , I will definitely get one of those then!

Sparkler20191 · 26/09/2020 07:46

Hi Falcone
Two more things to add to your Shopping list for post- prolapse surgery! One I’ve bought a post partum pillow- relief. The other is canestan.
I have been so uncomfortable this week with -sorry tmi- externally things stinging SO much, like having someone twang rubber bands at me at night (day seems to be a bit better). I have a mother of a stitch just inside my vagina and wondered if the tightness from that was causing all the pain. Now hoping though even though it doesn’t itch -which would be my alarm in the past- the stinging indicates a yeast infection. Was on antibiotics after surgery than again to test long term UtI the following week so seems likely. I am praying that’s it and I can sort it with OTC creams and taking probiotics

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Sparkler20191 · 26/09/2020 07:46

Treat* not test!

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Falcone · 26/09/2020 08:44

That sounds awful @Sparkler20191, I really hope you make a full recovery soon! So have your stitches not dissolved yet? Thanks for the heads up, I have already got a postpartum pillow but I will make sure I get some canisten in just incaseSmile

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