I found a lump. Do I tell DH before going to GP?

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Hi. I found a lump in my breast. Both DH and I are really stressed at the moment (DH more than me) and I'm just wondering should I wait to tell him until after I've visited the GP?

Do I need to add to his stress just yet seeing as I'll have to wait a few days for an appointment? WWYD?

I think that if you have a good marriage generally and you would tell him usually if you weren’t both stressed then I’d say yes tell him. How will he feel if you don’t tell him and couldn’t support you when you needed it?
Do you usually like to deal with things by yourself or do you prefer to share your problems?
Do you have someone else you can tell if you decide not to tell dh? Friend? Family?
I hope you don’t have to wait too long for an appointment and that everything turns out ok.

That depends on a lot of things - how old you are, what it feels like, and also your relationship. I get a lot of lumps, I’m a naturally lumpy person, and I have a family history of breast cancer. So I sometimes don’t mention it to DH just because there are so many things to talk about and I’m not usually that worried. If I were worried I would probably talk to him

If you're worried and need support I would tell him but if you're like me "no point worrying unless you've got something to worry about" then I wouldn't.

It depends on whether or not he will support you. Or make it all about him and his feelings.

No doubt tell him. Its why you are married. You support each other. He will be more hurt to find out later. Well I know my DH would.

Also, good luck. Must be scary.

I told my dh when I found a lump. Partly because I knew it would prey on my mind. Don’t be afraid to contact the gp on Monday.

I can't imagine keeping some important like that from someone I love. Makes no sense. (And yes I read the stressed part). How would you feel if the situation was reversed? Also, fingers crossed tightly for you that it's absolutely nothing . Must be worrying. Tell him

I did. I told him to try not to worry and I'd made a GP appointment, let him feel the lump too. I had a mammogram and ultrasound. Luckily it's just a normal fatty cyst, nothing to worry about.

Thank you all so much for your replies

I'm not overly worried. Hopefully it's nothing. I suppose I am a little worried. I think I should tell him though, as some of you mentioned he would be hurt if I didn't.