DD teen 14 moody immature frequent periods

[Daddylonglegs1965]

I didn’t know where to post this. DD started her period age 12. She had had a talk at school/we had had a talk and said I had bought her some supplies some in her knicker draw and some in the bathroom cupboard etc etc. But said to let me know when she started so I could get more supplies and incase she needed a tablet or a hot water bottle for tummy pain etc. Explained my periods were really painful and said she could talk to me about anything etc. Although DD has always been quite immature and she has dyslexia I thought we had quite a good relationship.
Anyway she never told me she had started her periods and she hid her underwear, used sanitary pads and made her bed over the blood stained sheets for several days etc. Obviously embarrassed etc. We have had several talks over the last 2 1/2 years it can’t be helped etc I’m not going to tell you off etc. I can show you how to use the washer if you don’t want to say and just put your sheets and knickers in etc. I bought her a bin for her bedroom and the bathroom some scented nappy sacks. Explained how to use these. She tried tampons but didn’t like them. She is now putting used sanitary pads in the bins finally (but doesn’t replace the bin liners or use nappy sacks). She doesn’t keep a track of her periods I have tried to get her to do this on her phone or on the calendar whatever. Anyway her periods are very erratic can last two weeks she can have days off then have another long one or she can go a couple of months without one. Currently she has been on since a week on Sunday her moodiness is horrendous and is always directed at me. I took her to the doctors in the summer explained about her frequent heavy periods lady doc was lovely checked her blood and sent her for an ultrasound said all ok nothing they could do except maybe put her on the pill if things didn’t settle down in a couple of months. Then her periods stopped for a few months I had a phone appointment with the doctor explaining this and she said I don’t think their is a problem just leave things as they are.
Any suggestions please? She shouts at me all the time and if she’s not shouting she is moody short and awkward. Way beyond teenage moods. I feel sorry for her I always ask about her day school and friendships. She has two close quiet friends at school but she sees them out of school very rarely as they don’t live close by.

for you OP. That sounds very hard indeed. I remember how many of my friends had really heavy periods and erratic cycles in our teenage years and we were a really moody lot at times. My periods were never that bad, but I went on the pill at 16 and was amazed by the transformation. Much lighter, completely regular and minimal PMT. My sister had horrible periods and was put on the pill at about 14 and it really helped. So I guess what I'm trying to say is 'Get her on the pill!'. It might not the magic bullet, but if she's suffering with 2-week long cycles and bleeding all over her bedding it sounds like she would really benefit. Take her back to the doctor asap would be my advice.

Thanks zafferana. My periods were horrendous but regular I went on the pill at 17 but although she is a nightmare giving DD the pill at that age doesn’t feel right especially also as she may take the pill irrationally. If DD said to me once I am so fed up with this only once I might be more keen but she never moans or complains.

Erratically not irrationally.

Have you talked to her about the options? If you think she wouldn't take it properly then she could have the injection instead (once every 3 months, nothing to remember in between). Or just take her for a chat with the practice nurse, who will have all the info, including the most up to date new brands and options that might be particularly appropriate for a teen.

One other thing - the pill isn't just for contraception, so please don't be against it because you feel it's inappropriate at her age. Girls are put on the pill for acne, heavy periods, PMT, erratic cycles, all kinds of reasons.

Thanks zafferana. I was more worried about the pill damaging her health over the longer term.
I took the pill for many years as I had heavy periods from about 17. I didn’t realise you could have injections.
I have just tried to discuss it with her and she has bitten my head off but she has been on her period for a week and a half.

As far as I'm aware the pill doesn't damage your health in any long term ways. I was on it from 16-33 and got pregnant within 6 weeks of stopping taking it. But any concerns you have can be discussed with the practice nurse at your doctor's surgery. Maybe a good starting point is going along yourself to discuss what the options might be and then seeing if your DD can be persuaded to accompany you when her mood improves a little?