Did you go back after childbirth

[LittleMe23]

Honest answers please.

Did you ‘go back’ after childbirth.

I have friends who said they are the same as before and others that say they no one ever goes back and it is the worst thing they have ever done.

I thought you meant go back to work

Maybe she did and is now horrified that we've all started talking about our genitals.

😂

More or less but - and absolutely no one told me this might be a thing - only after I stopped breastfeeding. When sex still hurt after six months I assumed that was my life now, but it was back to normal within weeks of stopping breastfeeding - it felt like it was about the physical healing of my scar but I guess it must actually have been hormonal.

In general, I thought that how things were at about six months postpartum would be about as good as it would get, but I was massively closer to how I was before after a year.

I think she meant mentally go back to how you felt/were before kids.

Life changes completely after having children so there is no way you can completely go back to how your life was like before. You have responsibilities. I do miss my life before though but would not trade it for my world!

Mentally - not the same
Physically - not the same

No, my feet have never been the same since.

It would help if the OP (journalist?) actually clarified what they meant!

Don't they try to stitch you up so it's tighter than before

No, that's a misogynistic joke AFAIK.

Ha...you would wish it was but i recall my lovely departed great grandma saying when you got stitched the midwife always asked "would you like an extra one for your husband"

Was pretty much the norm and a lot accepted...even in those days the ladies would compare notes in more hushed tones than the well oiled girlie nights I have experienced

I am back to full fitness now with my 8 month old, ideal weight, body fat etc and getting the best times in my sport I ever have.

Had a 3rd degree tear and cut, my lady bits are very different now. But ok. Sex is fine. I’d feel uneasy with a new partner.

Boobs are saggy, I had implants and it’s spoilt those.

I love the fact nobody knew what I was talking about 😂.

I don’t think they have done the husband stitch in years as it caused woman pain and made no differences to tightness of the vaginal canal.

I have heard lots of woman say they’re bodies do ‘Go back’ however people I have met in the medical profession such as doctors and nurses say nobody ever goes fully back to way they were before.

For me
Boobs: unchanged (never breastfed)
Stomach: a little loose (I had a small bump)
Vagina: awful

It's hard to tell. My DM found the full impact of her injuries in childbirth didn't really hit until after she went through the menopause and she ended having prolapse surgery. She's always nagging me about pelvic floor exercises now.

Same weight, but completely different body shape, especially around the ribs and tummy which are wider.

@SnuggyBuggy I think it is very common to to get prolapse after menopause due to the lack of hormones all the muscles in the vagina become weak.

I just think as women we should be informed about the changes you will go through during pregnancy and the risk of a vaginal birth not just a c section. The same goes for menopause.

We are lead to believe prolapse only happens after the age of 35 and if you have had multiple births. Which is complete untrue it can happen at any age no matter how big or small your baby is, you need to look at you genes so if your mother or sister has had one then you most probably will.

Did after my 1st, but not after 2nd. Been left with skin tags from piles. Apparently they are too small to remove, but they do bother me, luckily not my husband 😊. Also definitely bigger vag, despite lots of pelvic floor. I was very small before though, so probably more 'normal' now 😂