Miscarriage

[TrickortreaT2]

Sorry for the long post but please read

So i went for my second scan today. As you can imagine i was already upset (due to my miscarriage - no heartbeat being detected in first scan last week)
Today the miscarriage was confirmed... i was really upset, the tiny hope i had, had gone
I had so many thoughts and questions running in my head.. i asked the doctor why has this happened.. was there something wrong with the baby, was it something i did, surely there must be a reason why it happened and it would be good to know so i can prevent next time.
All she said was, no nothing you've done wrong, its just common for 1 in 4 pregnancies to end up in a miscarriage..... right... so i felt like im a number out of 4... and i got selected to miscarry my baby.. great that explains alot... that really makes me feel better! I dont think so.. it only angered me and upset me more
Then she said we cannot examine or investigate a miscarriage unless you have had 3.... okay so a woman is meant to lose three babies before she can get an anwser or a cure..
losing one is hard enough, heartbreaking and exhausting mently and physically.. why let her go through it 3x before she can get help?? Its really unfair.
I was reading about the same thing on change. Org last night and there's a petition on there about this.
Ladies please sign it and share it
.. it could make a difference and bring in a change.
Heres the link:
chng.it/SPJPWKH7hm

I'm very sorry for your loss OP. I had a missed miscarriage a few weeks ago and it is the pits.

Miscarriage is unfortunately very very common - 1 in 4 pregnancies as your doctor said. I only know of one woman in my circle who's had a couple of healthy pregnancies and no losses. It's something most women seem to go through, so something very normal, if very very shitty.

There simply aren't the resources to investigate every miscarriage. Most women miscarry and go on to have a healthy pregnancy with no intervention, and so the investigation wouldn't change how any subsequent pregnancy was treated anyway.

I'm so so sorry for your loss. Please be kind to yourself.

I was told the same stats nearly 20 years ago. Lost 2 then had my son. Lost another then went on to have 2 healthy babies. No explanation, that was how it was.

I bled for 9 months with my daughter, I remember going to a 4:40pm scan at 12 weeks after horrid bleeding and I was told I was the only one going home that day with good news.
Talk to your partner it so helps. X