Sex after childbirth

[ryanreynolds]

I had a baby 12 weeks ago and am now scared of having sex.

I'm really worried it will hurt (haven't tried so nothing to base this on).

Light tampons are uncomfortable- I don't know if this is because it's really light flow or because of some sort of injury?

DH is very patient and won't put any pressure on - he doesn't realise how worried I am about it though.

Any experience/advice?

Hi,

First time after it’s natural to be a little bit wary. I was exactly the same. I would say take your time and on the first occasion do what you comfortable with use lube and maybe even a lubed condom. After birth you have gone through trauma be patient

Perhaps just try stuff you know is not going to hurt - maybe have him use his finger(s) or tongue the first time rather than having full penetration.

Expect it to feel different - for me physically the sensation actually got better after childbirth. So don't assume everything will be negative - you may find things that turned you on before children no longer do and things you never used to enjoy now you do!

It sounds like you're lucky enough to have a considerate DH so maybe just suggest being playful and trying some different things while you work out what your new body enjoys. That way it's less about performance, just both of you having fun.

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