He gave me an STI..

[chloeunderwood]

I've been seeing a guy for 3 months now and he's given me and STI. I haven't slept with anyone for over a year before him so it's definitely him I got it from.

It's obvious I need to tell him so I don't get another STI. We don't use condoms for particular reasons, I use other contraception so the only way would be for him to get cured.

I'm just nervous to tell him. I don't want it to effect anything and I know the first thing most people would think is that I've caught it from someone else. My doctor told me the STI I have doesn't show symptoms in most people, so if he doesn't have any symptoms it would be hard for him to understand that it's him that gave it to me.

How do I go about this? Face to face? Message? How do I say it? I'm not mad at him in anyway, these things happen but it's a massive annoyance and I absolutely don't want to get it again.

Well how would you like to be told on that situation?

If you are getting on well then face to face but if you don't feel like you're all that comfortable yet then just message him.

It's one of those things and it's great that you look after your sexual health. It's obviously not nice for anyone to hear but you're doing the right thing by telling him.

He needs to know so he can be treated and you can go back to enjoying physical relationship. Have you any idea how you would word it?

Just tell him he’s given you an STI, and you know it’s come from him. Do not internalise any shame or let him create any drama. You both need to take the medicine and say no more about it.

You tell him he's given you an STD and he needs to go and get treated. There isn't any other way of doing it. He also needs to tell past girlfriends.

Or he could know already and not give a shit.

Rule of thumb in a new relationships. If you aren't going to use condoms then both go and get checked out before sharing bodily fluids.

Have you had an STI between the last person you slept with & this new guy?

I’m just thinking that if it doesn’t show symptoms - even though the last person you slept with was over a year ago, you could have had it for longer than you might think?

Unless you definitely did test in between I don’t think you can be certain it was him.

Just a thought.

I’d just tell him he’s given you an STI & you both need to get treated before you can continue to have sex. As long as you know it’s definitely came from him and you haven’t had it since the previous partner.

Crikey, if you are close enough to have sex surely you are close enough to have an adult discussion on this? I can't believe you'd tell anyone this remotely by social media FFS! How weird is that?

Guessing you have chlamydia, or maybe even gonnorhea? In any case he needs to know especially if your relationship is not exclusive and other women may be at risk.

And for goodness sake- use condoms! There can't be any 'other reason' not to. Your health is more important that any other reason. I hope to God he wasn't a guy who said he didn't like them and you did what he said