Trouble conceiving, early menopause?

[Cagedbird00]

Hi, I’ve been trying to conceive my 2nd child for 7 months with no joy. Bought ovulation tests the first 2 months & I ovulated day 14 of a pretty regular 28ish day cycle-so I know I am ovulating! I already have a 3 year old & conceived as soon as we began trying so I didn’t imagine there’d ever be any issue conceiving #2.

Before ds1 my periods were like clockwork, very heavy & painful. Periods returned after I stopped breastfeeding, were regular at first but as time has gone on they’ve become more irregular, only by a few days early or late. They used to last just over a week, full flow for 4 days but now I’m only heavy for 1 or 2 days then barely bleed the rest of the week, they’ve become less painful as time has gone on also.

I’m 32 & panicking about things like early menopause! Do I have reason to be concerned or am I just overreacting? (Not unheard of)

Period just started (2 days late) so no baby again this month

Sorry but you are def over reacting! :)

Cycles change throughout our lives. Mine changed from long cycles of up to 35 days as a teen to 30-32 days in my 30s, to 28 in my 40s and once to 17 days in my 50s.

FWIW it took me 8 months at age 30 to conceive, and once for baby 2.

Worrying is counter productive. Just relax, it all sounds 100% normal.

Is there a history in the family of premature menopause on the maternal side before age 45 or so?

If there is then you need to see the GP and tell them about the family history and ask to be referred to a specialist so they can check your hormone levels etc.

Well this is where it gets difficult, I don’t know! My grandma had a hysterectomy in her 30’s & was on her after that, my mum died at 43 so I’m letting my imagination run away with me!

Might just go to the dr to put my mind at rest I suppose!

I can't see you have any grounds to suspect early menopause, really.
Your cycle has reduced slightly, your blood loss is slightly less, and that's it. I never ever had more than 2 days of medium flow blood loss and a couple of days of light flow all my life.

Your dr would first ask you to record your cycles for 6 months, and also say you have to 'try' to conceive for a year before they consider anything wrong.

The only tests are FSH blood tests that need to be done over 2 cycles, early in the month (cycle.)

I do think your anxiety is making this worse. It's known to impede conception.

7 months is very early days, and it doesn't mean you can't conceive because you haven't done so far. The change in your cycle doesn't mean that either. Something like 85% of couples conceive within the first year of trying naturally, and it increases to 95% after two years. It just takes a bit of time, that's all.

That said, you could certainly up your chances of conceiving sooner rather than later by following all the lifestyle recommendations for fertility, e.g. reducing/abstaining from caffeine and alcohol, eating well, only moderate exercise, stress management like meditation, yoga, hypnosis, good sleep habits etc.