Painful perineum after birth

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First post on mumsnet! Feeling lost...So looks like I got the so called husband stitch after birth and the perineum is too tight and very painful. I wonder if anyone has going through it and actually recovered? What can be done? I have read for some women it hurts for years... I don't really believe in a marriage without sex so feeling sad now!!!

How long ago did you give birth? Mine hurt for a few months but eventually went back to normal.

Thank you! Only 6 weeks ago... It's just my gynecologist said it shouldn't hurt this much....

Far too soon to judge yet. Don’t try and have sex for a good long while yet.

I also read that it shouldn't hurt for that long....I was still in a lot of pain after 8 weeks and then a bearable amount of pain for another month. So it was really only when my son was 4 months that I remember thinking I wasnt in pain. This was from a simple episiotomy. We all heal differently. Give your body some time xx

I hadn’t heard of the husband stitch before and just had to google it

Gross

Have you had someone have a look and say you have had an extra stitch or is it just normal postnatal soreness?

It’s normal to be sore for a while. You should speak to your GP or midwife and get someone to have a look

Thank you ladies for the encouraging word! Yes it's actually my GYN who said looks like there's one stitch too much. I live in Germany, my GYN is not the one who helps with delivery. I'll wait and hope it gets better on itself!

I gave birth 12 weeks ago and my epi scar is still tight and I feel it occasionally. It’s wasn’t very big but I’m told it was quite deep. I think where they have closed it is closer to my vagina than previously joy! The things we have to go through!

But I have definitely heard of people having this corrected so that’s probably an option if things don’t settle with more healing x

I had my epi redone after about 2 years (I was a bit slow realising it wasn't normal for it to still be sore!). Mine didn't heal properly,
I think because I was so swollen and lost a lot of blood. Tried steroid creams but they didn't do much. The surgery totally fixed it. Give it some time, 6 weeks isn't long. But don't let it go on as long as I did!

Oh op, it's only been 6 weeks. You've had stitches and most likely very heavy bruising. The chances are excellent that soon you will be feeling 100% better. Just relax, enjoy your gorgeous baby, and allow your body the time it needs to repair itself. Unburden yourself from any silly pressure to be back to normal so quickly.

OP, Could have written that myself! I’m 7-8 weeks pp. used lots of lube. Literally could not even get 5% of his you know what in (and he’s only got a small one!) the pain was unreal. I called the GP, she said it’s not normal to feel this pain & to go in for a swab to be taken. Sorry to sound so gross but I couldn’t even think about fingers going near there. It’s feels extremely small & tight, wondering if I’ve had this extra stitch too!

Yes mine got somewhat better. I had to introduce lubricant though.

Any update op?