Right. Talk to me about the coil.

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Cannot do hormonal contraception anymore. Do not want children probably ever. Despite trying for almost a year DP isn't getting on with condoms so the coppor coil remains the only option.

However, I am petrified. To the point where I feel dizzy and sick even thinking about making an appointment. I tried some private clinics to see if any of them could sedate me first or something but I couldn't find anywhere that offered it.

I need to put my big girl pants on and do it. Me and DP haven't had sex for weeks.

I think... Fuck it... I'll just do it it must only take a couple of minutes. Then end up reading horror stories on the Internet and think nah me and DP can just go without sex forever.

I don't know what to do. I had to have a colposcopy a few years ago which left me feeling almost violated and emotional for a few days afterwards but I don't remember the pain being too bad. Always go for smears which have been mostly fine except one which bloody hurt.

I had a coil fitted Monday - Mirena, but the process is exactly the same I believe. Not going to lie, it wasn't pleasant, and I was nervous as all hell, but the doctor was lovely and she was quick as she could be.

It's hard to describe but imagine a smear test scenario with the speculum - not the most fun thing. When she fitted the coil itself, it was uncomfortable, but lasted about 2 minutes I'd say, with only a couple of really strange feeling nasty bits in that time. It was over very quickly. Don't plan to do much the day you have it done, I felt quite yuck all day but no worse than a bad period or a mild contraction.

I started bleeding Tuesday and it's been light since then, and I was mid cycle when I had mine done, a day or so after ovulation and previously on the pill. I don't feel wonderful but it is Easter holidays so I've been run ragged, and I always feel off on my period anyway.

I don't regret it, but I am glad that's it for the next 5 years! Do it, it's literally 5 minutes of your life and my doctor didn't mind when I swore .

Oh, and step away from the internet. Remember, people only tend to write reviews or experiences that are either amazingly good or shockingly bad. Everyone is different, and women have this done all the time. The vast majority of these women will not document their experience, because it was fine if slightly uncomfortable. The online experiences are not offering a majority view.

You can do this, honestly.

Fitting it was fine for me. The only problem with removing it was that it came out in a CS with DD2 practically clutching the damn thing. I got sterilised that time.

Fitting was fine. As previous poster though mine came out with my dd during a c section.
I haven't had another coil since as it didn't work.

at practically clutching the thing!!!! Except not because no babies in my house right now thank you!! 2 people with failed coils on one thread has put me off slightly
Though

Right. Pet peeve time: www.verywellhealth.com/what-to-expect-during-an-iud-insertion-906772

See the extra box in the "insertion" pic? That's got the pointy pliers they use to hold the cervix in place. They are far and away the most painful thing in an otherwise uneventful procedure, and they are not necessary for a competent medical professional unless you have a very very wobbly cervix. Ask them to do the insertion without using the "tenaculum". If they can't, go somewhere else to get it done - there'll be some sort of GUM/sexual health clinic nearby that'll have expert inserters.

I've got one as well, had it for almost a year now. Pain-wise I'd say insertion is a step past a pinchy smear test. It remains occasionally uncomfortable while it settles into place. I have a few intervals right before my period starts where I have about 1-5 minutes of bad cramping and my periods are heavier with some spotting.

But hormonal options (Inc Mirena) made me absolutely bananas. Condoms-only stressed me out such that I never wanted to have sex for fear of getting pregnant. I'll take some pain over that mental stress any day.

While there may be two in this thread who have had the exception experience, review the stats. Copper coils are used as emergency contraceptives as well as normal. Those are the super babies that get past.

Firstly make sure that you go to sexual health clinic to have this done and not through gp. They are so much more experienced and will be gentle on you if you explain your worries. Secondly you can have numbing injection into uterus so apart from stinging from that you which is minor you will feel nothing. I had that as I was petrified of the the procedure after traumatic birth. I was surprised in the end how easy and absolutely pain free that was. However I hated heavy periods while I had it in.

I had the copper coil. Initially had quite heavy bleeding and discomfort for a few moths. Things settled down and everything was fine for a couple of years and then it 'migrated' and I was in agony - never had pain like it. Had to have it taken out. Lots of people I know have had it without any problems at all though.