Sex still painful a year after childbirth & random bleeding?

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Has anyone still been sore during sex a year after having their dc? Or have random bleeding after sex/ in between periods?
I do have a gp appointment booked I'm just a bit worried and looking to hear if anyone else has had similar.

I had dd over a year ago, birth wasn't great and ended in an episiotemy & ventouse delivery. Sex has been painful since, and it's not getting any better.

I've now started bleeding after sex & have been bleeding almost constantly for the last 4 weeks. Not massive amounts all the time but it's there nearly all the time.

I've freaked myself out a bit so just wondering if anyone has had anything similar?

I'm not bleeding between periods but sex is still very very very painful at 10 months. I've been told doing it more should make it better 🤷‍♀️

I don't know about the bleeding, but sex should not be painful. Whereabouts is the pain, i.e. is it your episiotomy scar tissue or is it more internal?

I've not given birth recently but have similar symptoms. I've had a 10 day long massive period (still not stopped) after about 3 months of daily bleeding. I've been referred to gynae. I am actually too exhausted to care anymore. I think you need to be referred to gynae.

Thanks everyone.
esme8585 I think it's a viscious circle because you want to try to do it more/it hurts/ your scared to it again so your tense! The pain is more internal than my scar. I'm taking cerazette so I was kind of hoping that could be the cause of the strange bleeding but I think I'm clutching at straws with that. Before I was pregnant when I was on cerazette I didn't bleed at all.

Gisel I hope the gynae manages to give you some answers. I don't know what to expect from the doctor if they'll refer me straight away. I suppose with pain/random bleeding you always fear the worst. I have had a smear since giving birth and it came back ok, but that was before the bleeding started.

I could barely have sex after my first (had keilands forceps so was quite scarred internally). I was told more sex would fix it, I fell pregnant (while breastfeeding, no period) quite quickly. Sex continued to be painful.
The only thing that fixed it was having my second! No pain at all these days. Bit drastic as fixes go but there you have it...

Thanks hiphopapotamuses I don't think I'm ready to try that drastic a fix yet 😂 I think I'm scared of the thought of giving birth again! The nurse who done my smear mentioned that when I stopped breastfeeding it may help, but it didn't make any difference at all.

Yes - I'm having the exact same with regards to periods... I'm 11 months after a horrible birth which ended in episiotomy and forceps... while sex is quite uncomfortable it's not very sore... but I have bleeding in between my periods - I've had blood tests and had a transvaginal scan yesterday and nothing has come up - so they still don't know what the issue is other than it could be my pill causing the issues... hopefully you get your issue sorted as i know how horrible it can be xx

Haha I wasn't either @TerribleTwosPhase I cried for weeks when I found out I was pregnant again!
There's a pretty small gap between my two. However second time round was a different story - baby 2 was a kilo heavier but virtually strolled out, one minimal tear - my first labour and birth was horrific!
Not that I'm saying you should go for it but I'm hoping this is reassurance if you ever do decide to go for baby 2! Second time round was much, much easier!

Thanks @firsttimemummy11 I'm glad they haven't found anything serious for you, but at the same time it must be frustrating not knowing either.

I was thinking of getting an implant rather than the pill but have read it might not be good for people who have random bleeding!

Thanks @hiphopapotamuses that's good to hear, I think you just hear so many bad birth stories it's easy to get uptight about it, when probably lots of Labour's are fine. DD was back to back and I really think it would have been totally different if she wasn't!

OP you're so right about the viscous cycle! And being scared and tense!
My ds was back to back too. Having another one is also too drastic for me 😂

Sorry to hear you're having a rough time. I had the same two things until a year after childbirth.

In my case the painful sex was due to childbirth tear not being quite healed. Where are you experiencing the pain?

I also had the random bleeding after sex / between periods and it was something called a cervical ectropian. They said they're common after birth due to fluctuating hormones and cauterised it. Has been fine ever since.

Thanks everyone. Seen my gp today and he done an exam/swabs/bloods and has referred me to the gynae so hopefully that happens quite quickly x

Hi

I haven't had a baby yet but I had pain during/after sex and that has lead to me being booked in for a laparoscopy. You might have cysts or something in the way. Glad you went to the GP so hopefully you'll have some answers soon.