Late miscarriage

[Hayls30]

Hi everyone,

I'm new to Mumsnet but wanted to reach out after having multiple miscarriages and feeling so alone.

I have a daughter who is 2 1/2, shes my pride and joy but sadly this time last year I had a miscarriage at 12 weeks and 2 months ago I had another late miscarriage at 20 weeks which has been totally devastating.

I feel like no one understands my pain, and I feel so angry and heartbroken. I'm surrounded by so many friends having babies, and who have newborns and I just can't bear to be around it.

I feel like my whole worlds just changed. I have friends I feel I've lost because it's too upsetting to be around them and family who just don't understand my pain, it's the loneliest place in the world.

I hope no one else is going through this, but I'm searching for something that will help....

Hayley

I don't have any advice but saw no one had replied to you, so I wanted to say how sorry I am for your losses . My sister had a MC at 14 weeks a few years ago, and I remember how deeply painful it was for her.

I'm hoping my reply will bump your thread and you'll get some responses from people who can be of more help to you.

Thank you for your message, your kindness and compassion is really appreciated x

Sorry for your loss. I had a late loss a month ago and it’s utterly devastating.

Have you tried the SANDS forum? Unfortunately lots of people who have suffered many different types of loss and I’ve found comfort in them.

Have you been supported by a bereavement midwife at all?

There is also a strong baby loss community on Instagram that might be worth checking out?

Some more practical things I’ve found helpful are yoga, reflexology, acupuncture and running but sure everyone has different things that work for them.

I'm so sorry you're struggling with this. I second the sands recommendation. They were an absolute lifeline to me after my so was stillborn.

There are a number of good support threads on MN that may help

I haven't tried sands yet no, thank you for your advice to look into that it's really appreciated. I received leaflets on petals but unfortunately as we were seeing a consultant in a hospital not local to us they didn't cover the area we live. I did get a couple of calls from the bereavement midwife but at that point I was still in shock and I didn't really have much feeling on what would help. Perhaps getting back in touch now would be a good idea. I think it's only now I'm starting to realise that I do need support outside of my family and friends and
I think it will help to speak with people who have gone through this as sadly no one else can understand the grief.
Thank you both for your messages and I'm
so sorry to hear you've had a late loss also, it's incredibly heartbreaking and if you need anyone to talk to please contact me.

I'm so so sad to hear your baby was still born, that's totally devastating. Thank you for messaging and your advice to look into sands, it's hugely appreciated. X

I've found Instagram really good as lots of inspiring Women who share their journeys of loss and that has been a help to me.