I know this is a strange question but I’d really really appreciate it if anyone has any ideas at all.
I went through a horrible few years, loosing my mind, thinking I was a freak of nature and getting very depressed with chronic, constant, severe UTIs which doctors couldn’t help put a stop to. I even lost my job due to repeated time off sick and became incontient. This lead me to have very bad anxiety and depression and I ultimately had a mental breakdown. It started when I got together with my former partner. After I left him (he was very emotionally abusive as well) the problem stopped. He made out like I was the only person in the world like this and it was all my fault.
I was recently contacted by his new girlfriend of a few months who was having exactly the same experience and was desperate for help. She’d become very ill as well and was being threatened with loosing her job as she’d been off sick so much. I started to wonder whether this had happened before as well and he did in fact know what was going on all along. After a lot of thought, I contacted two of his ex girlfriends whose names I knew and was shocked to find out they’d both had exactly the same experience as well.
The only thing that stands out about this guy is his poor hygeine - showering twice a week max (he used to get really abusive if I said anything about it) - but I don’t know whether this is the only explanation. All sexual health checks came back negative and e-coil kept showing up on the doctor’s lab tests. I was also tested for mycoplasma and ureaplasma by a private lab (the NHS don’t test for it) but this came back negative.
I spent years trying every possible thing to get it under control until it made me go crazy. I’m pretty freaked out to think this guy is going around repeatedly doing this to people and there must be some explanation.
I would be so grateful if anyone could share their thoughts as this nearly pushed me over the edge.
Thank you