I'm 30, I had cervical cancer 3 years ago all clear now)
friday I found a small lump in my right breast, went to the GP on Tuesday because of the bank holiday. I was thoroughly examined, and she told me she was referring me to the breast clinic as an urgent case, because of my history, I fully understood that.
I am not a stupid person I Know I am being sent as a precaution and it is likely nothing to worry about but I cannot help thinking if I have cancer again what it will do to my family, I'm not concerned about cancer I know I'm strong enough to fight it, therefore I'm not scared, in that sense, what I am scared of, is everything that comes along with it, surgery, pain, nausea vomiting etc, and I worry about the effect it will have on my family. I haven't told any family or friends (other than DH DSS) I need to go to the clinic as not to worry everyone else, as its likely to be nothing, also because everyone doubted me last time that I would pull through as i was so sick, and to be honest it really pissed me off!
Now I feel selfish for not telling them, I have told DSS if he wants to tell his mum (she is a nurse) he is welcome to so he has someone to talk to if he is worried when he is not here with us, he is 11 and starting secondary school next week so doesn't need anything bogging his mind down, we are all very open and he rarely bottles things up which is great, she can also tell him the clinical in and out of the tests if he asks, as I have no clue what happens a mammogram I expect.
basically, I suppose I am asking should I tell my mother and mother in law at least what is coming up or keep quiet and not worry them?