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Abortion??

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GAL8 · 27/08/2018 16:18

I am meant to be having a surgical abortion tomorrow & I can't work out if I'm
Doing the right thing.

I'm 9 weeks pregnant & in my late twenties. I have been with my partner for four years.

We thought we wanted a baby but when the reality dawned it really shocked us. I have spent the last few weeks feeling incredibly conflicted, changing my mind. Financially we can afford a child. But selfishly I don't know if I am ready. But I don't want to regret this decision for the rest of my life. We have been & spoken to my doctor together who was very supportive. My partner has been incredibly supportive too, saying he will support either way. I feel so guilty thinking of all the people who can't have children, or try for years. I think how apart from being tired, this pregnancy hasn't made me feel sick or any other side effects. I wonder if there is something wrong with me for on paper having a seemingly 'perfect set up' for a child yet we are both still unsure. I know I do
Want children one day, at least I think I do.

I feel guilty and alarmed because when I've googled how I feel, nothing comes up. The people who bravely share their stories on the net who have abortions are in rocky relationships, too young, already have children or financially unsure. I know that may just be google & I'm sure it's not the real representation of all people.

Any help or wise words would be very much appreciated. Thank you so much.

OP posts:
SOS123 · 02/09/2018 17:09

Hi, I realise this message may be a little late as I do not know whether you went through with the termination of your pregnancy.
Either way I wish you support whatever you chose. Only you can make that decision and what is best for you. It is only natural to feel guilty and there are many people who have had the same dilemma, you are not alone.
The important thing is you have support what ever your decision and it sounds like you do. x

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