Never ending pain

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My daughter is now 5. I had a huge tear due to forceps delivery that was ok last year apart from some raw scar tissue. Then my Dr failed to investigate why my pain dramatically escalated last year. Eventually just before surgery they discovered I'd had an infected hole for nearly 4 months. It was excised but ever since I've been in horrendous pain that even ridiculously strong pain killers barely ease. Gynae & pain consultant don't see away forward, physio thinks my case is too complicated. I struggle with everything & wonder whether everyone would be better if I wasn't here. My husband would have a normal wife that could have sex and have another child, my daughter could have another mother that could play, hike, kayak, bounce on a bouncy castle. Everything a mother should do but I can't. I'm trying so hard and failing at everything

How horrendous for you, I'm so sorry. I was also in very difficult circumstances for a long time after pregnancy.

I would not be accepting there's nothing modern medicine can do for you. Can you afford to have a consultation with a consultant specialising in this area? Mumsnet is usually a great place to get recommendations.

I'm so so sorry that you're going through this. I had constant pain after birth and eventually a gynaecologist found I'd been stitched up 'wrong' and had a load of infected scar tissue. I'd not had sex or been able to walk properly for years. I don't even really remember early baby months. Just the pain. I had a Fenton's procedure (actually two, the first didn't completely work; still couldn't have sex etc). He's 8 now and I'm ok. I don't know if a Fenton's procedure would help you, but if you want to look it up, and consider if perhaps it would, I can send you the name of my gynaecologist. He was wonderful, the only person to really listen to me and seem to want to help rather than just writing me off as someone who'd had a baby and waddya expect.

I've had 2 refashionings and one full reconstruction. (Not including the initial repair) Steroid injections, I'm on daily morphine and amitriptyline. Still constant pain. Gynecologist says I don't respond well to surgery, pain consultant wants me to learn to live with the pain 🤷🏽‍♀️ my first gynecologist told me women should expect pain after childbirth so I requested another

You need another gynae. This is unacceptable. I would be very careful who you go to next and get lots and lots of recommendations.

Hi guys.

I'm on my 3rd gynae & I'm not sure where to go now, if the physio can't help I'll request a referral to a specialist team in a different city that I've read are good at dealing with these issues.

Thanks for your advice. I've asked for this thread to be closed as I've calmed down a bit now.