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Julie Myerson - why am I not surprised that a book has materialised concerning her own son's drug issues?

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glasjam · 01/03/2009 20:57

Read this is in today's Observer www.guardian.co.uk/society/2009/mar/01/julie-myerson-novel-drug-addiction

Does anyone else have the uncomfortable feeling that I have on learning that she is writing about her son's drug problems? I know that writers often mine their own personal experiences for material but I think she's putting her literary endeavours ahead of her son here. From what I can gather, he is still young, his drug issues are ongoing, and although he is out of the family home, surely this is risking any possible future reconcilliation? I also baulk at the way she "weaves historical research about Yelloly with her disturbing account of her son's ejection from the family home" It just smacks of middle-class-writer angst.

My cynicism is further fuelled by my very strong suspicion that Julie Myerson is the author of Living with Teenagers - but that's another story...

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Threadworm · 13/03/2009 13:29
EffiePerine · 13/03/2009 13:38

Mrs F's DH

I love those books

cherryblossoms · 13/03/2009 16:08

... and just who is "the paramilitary wing of mumsnet"?

edam · 13/03/2009 17:55

did anyone call?

glasjam · 13/03/2009 18:43

Oh Mrs Flittersnoop - it was reading Home last Summer that made me post on here to ask whether anyone else thought or knew it was Julie Myerson who wrote Living with Teenagers. I am revisiting it just to refresh my memory (and because like another poster said I feel gripped by this whole saga not least because I feel a sense of responsibility for "outing" her!)

One of the things I noticed about it when looking at it again, was that there was a chapter called "The Jamaicans" - I remember feeling quite uncomfortable with it...

Would it be terribly indulgent of me to quote some more from it???

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bagsforlife · 13/03/2009 18:55

No...go on, please.

justaboutisawayfromhome · 13/03/2009 19:44

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morningpaper · 13/03/2009 19:48

YEAH YOU MOTHERFUCKERS YOU BETTER MAN UP AND ermmmmmm SHOOT SOME LEAD!!!!!!!!!

(does that sound right?)

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glasjam · 13/03/2009 20:06

OK here's a few gems!

Just to recap, "Home" is where Julie decides to find out about every single person who has lived in her house since it was built in the 1870s. It was published in 2004.

She's roped in her daughter Chloe to help her with some research down the archives. Chloe asks:

"Will you put every little thing I say in the book?"... "Is that why you've been asking me all these questions?"

"How d'you mean?

"I know you, you're going to write: "'Oh I wonder who lived in our house?" said Chloe, standing in the street reciting poetry."

I laugh. 'Why on earth would I say that you were naked?'

"I know the way you write. You'll put anything in for effect."'

I don't know about anyone else but this is a 12 year old girl talking (the book came out in 2004) - I find that remarkably perceptive!!

Another bit deals with our beloved Jake in character as the surly, grunting teenager - I guess about 14/15. They've been having a battle with him about going outside on a hot day wearing Jeans and thick socks. They are worried he will get heatstroke. Both the Myerson parents are involved and are taking quite a "firm" stance with this outrageous behaviour, refusing to let him out unless he changes into shorts. His father says he's grounded.

'Jake looks close to tears...he pushes out a shiny, purplish bottom lip, unsure of what the next line of rebellion should be. Weeping or shouting? Toddler or teenager?

'You guys!' he blurts out, flinging his hot body down in the armchair. 'You want to ruin my life, don't you?'

The argument continues with Jake ending up shattered and in tears. He stomps up to his room and slams the door "hard enough to make the whole house shudder".

AND THIS IS THE BIT THAT KILLS ME! Mother's next thought is not about about her absolutely distraught son. The line that follows the house shaking is this:

'I have a sudden fascinating thought. 'I'd give anything to know how many times all the doors in this house have been slammed since 1872"

Priceless!! And this was her writing about her children un-anonymously - Jake's tantrums under the spotlight in full glory. I bet his mates loved reading about him dissolving into tears.

And finally, in her acknowledgements:

'Writing novels is easy. You just pull stuff out of the dark, cobwebby places in your head and if it doesn't sound so good, or if it embarasses you, you shove it straight back. No One Ever Need Know. But writing about real life demands much more responsibility...I've tried hard not to invent or judge - and if at times I've fleshed out the truth, I can only say I did it with the best intentions, in an honest attempt to recreate a real episode for this or that person's real life...so if I've misrepresented or disappointed anyone, I can only apologise with all my heart.'

I wonder if a similar heartfelt apology will be forthcoming for Jake in the not too distant future?

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edam · 13/03/2009 20:12

Blimey. Lovely combination of controlling and self-absorbed there.

nkf · 13/03/2009 20:20

I think that living with a bad tempered teenager who is keen on skunk is probably a terrible experience. And I think that writers are notoriously efficient and selfish about using their experiences in their work. Nobody who is used by a writer likes it. And Julie Myerson isn't good enough a writer for people to accept that's what she's done.

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subtlemouse · 13/03/2009 20:32

The Incredible Adventures of Professor Branestawm; Professor Branestawn Up the Pole

various others - by Norman Hunter

abraid · 13/03/2009 20:39

Here's a rather different slant from a reviewer in the Independent who's read the book.

www.independent.co.uk/arts-entertainment/books/reviews/the-lost-child-by-julie-myerson-1643545.html

abraid · 13/03/2009 20:39

Here's a rather different slant from a reviewer in the Independent who's read the book.

www.independent.co.uk/arts-entertainment/books/reviews/the-lost-child-by-julie-myerson-1643545.html

abraid · 13/03/2009 20:39

Here's a rather different slant from a reviewer in the Independent who's read the book.

www.independent.co.uk/arts-entertainment/books/reviews/the-lost-child-by-julie-myerson-1643545.html

abraid · 13/03/2009 20:39

Here's a rather different slant from a reviewer in the Independent who's read the book.

www.independent.co.uk/arts-entertainment/books/reviews/the-lost-child-by-julie-myerson-1643545.html

AitchTwoOh · 13/03/2009 21:10

"Myerson describes the book, to her son and subsequently to her critics, as "a book about how much I love you ... though I realise you may not choose to see it quite like that."

god, she really does put all the responsibility onto him to utterly cave, doesn't she?

and as for this...

"Arranging an abortion for her sneering boy's quondam girlfriend, she tells the girl: "'All I want is for you to be OK.' It's not true. It's not all I want. All I want is for this to be over before she has time to change her mind." "

morningpaper · 13/03/2009 21:32

it really sounds

FECKING HORRENDOUS

bagsforlife · 13/03/2009 21:34

Well, the Independent reviewer obviously hasn't read the Daily Mail this week......

Ponders · 13/03/2009 21:36

Where were the girl's parents in the abortion decision? Did they even know?

AitchTwoOh · 13/03/2009 21:44

it is THE MOST EXTRAORDINARY THING, isn't it?

HOW could a woman write about that, about pressurising a young girl to have an abortion?
it is SUCH an amazing, almost sociopathic transgression.

vonsudenfed · 13/03/2009 21:51

Yes, anything else is within the realms of, if not forgivable, perhaps at least behaviour that I have seen and understood before.

For that, however, she deserves every ounce of opprobrium that has dropped onto her, and quite probably more.

AitchTwoOh · 13/03/2009 22:01

yeah, my sister was making a good fist of defending her today until i said 'you know she's written about taking her son's girlfriend for an abortion, don't you?' and my poor sis just threw her hands up and said 'nah, fuck that. there's no defence.'

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