to put my 6 week old baby in nursery 1 half day a week to have a break?

[babylovesmilk]

I am pregnant with my 3rd child and am planning to put my new baby in nursery from 9 -1, 1 day a week. My other DC will be at school. I had PND with my last child, have no family nearby and think the break will be a life line. AIBU?

Sorry meant to put this in AIBU?

oops wrong topic

no yabnu

are you going to breast feed though?
all the expressing etc might not make it worth it....

I think that's a perfectly sensible decision to make, if you're happy with it! Four hours per week is really not very much time, and yet it can make all the difference to get a few hours of headspace.

Just an idea though - do you think a childminder might suit a very little baby better? Maybe more intimate and cuddly for the baby?

Presumably you's only have to express one or two feeds (max) per week, which should be manageable.

Sounds like a fab idea to me. I would do that if I ever had another child (which would be a much wanted and loved baby as we have been trying for over 5 years). I did the attachment never leave them for a second thing in my twenties and in retrospect think I only just survived it. I would definitely factor in more time for me now. Good luck. If you need it, do it.

i don't think you are being unreasonable - however i don't think i could put my 6 wk old in nursury that young. I'd probably wait until a bit older - but then i'm lucky enough to have family local to me who like to help. I totally agree you need a break and a few hours to yourself. When are you due?

Completely personal decision but I think you definitely need time to yourself here and there, 4 hours a week is nothing to feel guilty about but could give you that space. I went back to work when my 2yo was 6 months and as I had PND (never admitted it to myself back then) work was my saviour. I love my child to bits but PND is no joke. Do what you gotta do, I say

Don't most nurseries only take babies from 12 weeks old?

Anyway, I would wait to see how the baby is. You might not need the break, s/he might sleep all the time (like mine did - in the daytime ).

But if you do need the break and you can afford it, go for it. If it was your mum offering to take the baby for four hours one day a week you wouldn't think anything of it.

I have a five week old baby and two children in kinder school. THe baby really isn't hard work at all, it's the older children I need help with when they get home from school! I would find it hard to be parted from my baby for four hours (bfing every 2/3 hours), but if it's what you want and you can afford it, then why not.

I'd happily look after your baby (as a childminder) I have had some from 3 weeks old becasue mum had PND.

I think a childminder would be better, as new babies need to be picked up and cuddles a lot in the early weeks.

Where are you - I do post natal support and have trained as a doula

Think it is a very workable and practical plan. You might hold off deciding until the baby arrives, you never know how you'll feel. I am an advocate of good nurseries, my dcs go to one, but with a nb I would lean towards finding a good local CM for the reasons mindingalongtime gives.

I have 3 children, and tbh I think that putting a baby that young in nursery, even just for 4 hours a week, could be more effort than its worth. They are so portable when they are small, and so much easier when you are an experienced mum, rather than doing everything for the first time (was for me anyway! )