Several years ago I read a book about a father bringing up his sons alone after his wife died. I think he was a journalist and lived in Australia or NZ. The theme was that the children thrived on a chaotic anarchic upbringing with few rules and lots of freedom.
It made a great impression at the time , but my boys were babies. Now they are older I'd like to re read it to give myself a few ideas how to be less of a control freak.
Of course I've lost the book and can't remember title or author.