Book on teenagers (advixe on how to bring them up)

[Doloresvivamarie]

Can anyone recommend a book on teenagers? Not fiction, I mean non-fiction. How to bring them up, what makes then tick, parenting tips etc.

Thanks

Best parenting book ever : How to talk so kids will listen (and listen so kids will talk). Can't remember the authors, but it changed the way I interact with my kids.

I can recommend a book called 'Get Out of My Life, But First Take Me and Alex Into Town'. It's reassuring to read how much teen behaviour is really quite normal.

Can I second both books, especially the Alex one, they saved my sanity when mine were teenagers, worth every penny

Divas and Doorslammers is great, would definitely recommend it.

I like the American book Drive. It isn't so much a how to survive teen tantrums book, but one that suggests half the problem is that they are far more ready for responsibility and pressure than we give them credit for and they won't hissy fit if we treat them in a more adult manner. It has loads of suggestions for age-appropriate stuff they should be able to handle (eg, GCSEs, two outside interests and a part time job plus cooking for the family once a week etc.) It's not about piling pressure on, but making them feel competent and capable without us hovering.

When DC play up I refer to Drive and it helps. Last time they started fighting because they were bored, I gave them £5 to go and buy food, cook it and serve it, then went to a mate's for G&T and brought her home an hour later to eat what they'd prepared. They'd gone from hard line squabbling to working as a team, and I got to be less frazzled because I'd delegated a job to them. They really enjoyed doing it and I really enjoyed the G&T in my mate's garden instead of teen wrangling. Recommended.

Is it this book threedeer ?

www.amazon.co.uk/Drive-Surprising-Truth-About-Motivates/dp/184767769X/ref=sr_1_2?ie=UTF8&qid=1401643970&sr=8-2&keywords=drive

No, it's not that one. It's by a US writer called Janine Caffrey iirc and it's specifically about raising teenagers so that they don't get into trouble because they are too motivated doing more interesting stuff with their lives and being responsible for things that matter passionately to them.

It's a lot about giving them the chance to take healthy risks and extending their boundaries so that they get a buzz from having more control and being more adult - running their own lives not having them run by parents, but in a constructive way. It's also about how to stay close to them as they naturally want to grow apart from you.Sorry for babbling on. It's hard to describe, but I like it a lot.