Wanted - a really uplifting and light book

[yogabird]

for my Mum who is dealing with dad's diagnosis of dementia and needs something to lift her a bit. Any recommendations?

Sorry to hear that. 'Miss Pettigrew Lives For A Day' is v sweet.

Oh, I can second Miss Pettigrew - great book.

I'd also recommend any of Georgette Heyer's books. They are my ultimate comfort read.

Perhaps The Grand Sophy or Talisman Ring would be good for starters.

Big ((hug)) for your mum - dementia is tremendously cruel.

thank you for recommendations and for the hug - still very weepy and can now not see the keys as I type.

Ah lovey. You have a cry. .

I've sort of lived with it - my Grandad got dementia when he came to live with us after my gran died, I was 14 at the time and very close to him (mostly cos I hated my parents, but still... ). He passed away when I was 30.

Is your Dad still having moments of lucidity? Take photos now, lots of them, doing stuff that makes him 'your Dad' iykwim. In the pictures we took I can see the difference in the expression on his face before to after. Those pictures are very special to me.

Dad's there most of the time, it's only early stages but very he's very pessimistic and worrying obsessively about all sorts of silly things like running out of fuel for the fire and 'what will we do then?' and not getting it that 'buy more' is a real option and just forgetting how do be capable and make tea and feed the dog when faced with doing both. Can't decide what to wear and walks into rooms wringing hands and saying he doesn't know what to do, he's so frustrated that no-one else sees that we're all doomed as he does. He's always been so decisive and in control and confident til this year and it's such a change yet mild I think by the standards of where he will end up.

I just feel so sad for him but also for Mum whose future is now to be very different from that she'd hoped for.

Thanks for the tip about photos - there's already been a change we must try to get more and of him having fun whilst we can. Not too weepy today, I have good and bad days - appreciated the arm pat